We all know that relationships are, to some extent, conditional.
We stay with someone because they fulfill certain needs.
When those needs change, those people change too.
Men who have awakened to this reality understand that their position in a woman's life is temporary.
They recognize that women often keep orbiters around for attention, validation, emotional support, or other benefits, and who may eventually become potential partners.
These men can represent something a woman's current partner either cannot provide or that she believes he cannot.
(This is very much the case for women who are with a man who f0cks them and gives them strong emotions, but lacks the emotional connection of a "beta", which she finds in these orbiters from which she supplies herself.)
Thing is, at some point, a woman can emotionally detach from her partner because she develops a crush on one of her orbiters.
I don't believe this necessarily indicates a psychological problem.
Even emotionally healthy women can experience this.
A man entering a relationship should understand that he may eventually face behavior like this.
So He have to "eat" some disrespect, while he wait for her to come back and "kill" the crush.
But, how do we react to that?
Let's do some examples:
1) In the animal kingdom, a lioness is interested in one lion, but another lion is also competing for her attention.
The two males fight, and the winner gets the opportunity to mate with her.
2) Humans: a woman is in a relationship, but she also has an orbiter. She begins to emotionally detach from her boyfriend and develops a crush on the other man.
Her boyfriend reacts aggressively. He raises his voice, confronts the rival, humiliates him, or uses intimidation to drive him away. In doing so, he attempts to assert dominance and preserve his relationship. We won her back. She's back, He owns her.
3) Humans (sosuave version)
The situation begins in the same way: a woman in a relationship develops a crush on one of her orbiters and starts to emotionally withdraw from her boyfriend.
Instead of competing, her boyfriend pulls back and allows her to make her own choices.
She may leave him for the other man, while the boyfriend moves on and starts looking for someone new.
Now, difficult situations can produce very different outcomes depending on how we respond.
Many people here will reject the animalistic approach, in which a man confronts a rival and tries to drive him away, and they'll teach and go for the 3), the sosuave version.
But the SoSuave approach has its own cost.
You may preserve your dignity, morals, value, respect, by refusing to compete for someone who is losing interest in you.
Yet you lose the relationship.
Many relationships are held and have been held on a razor's edge.
So many relationships have had that difficult moment that made them change for better.
I'm thinking that it's okay to walk away if you're disrespected, and at the same time, if you always walk away, what kind of relationship are we having with ourselves? We have the ability to see what is happening, but we have no patience or tolerance for it?
I mean, You move on and find another woman. But how likely is it that you will never encounter the same situation again?
We live in an age of constant digital interaction, where social media exposes women to an endless stream of potential romantic alternatives. For them, this means developing frequent crushes, comparing partners, and periodically reassessing their relationships.
Many men here have experienced a woman's emotional withdrawal after she develops an interest in someone else. They know that the intensity of a crush may eventually fade, giving that air, time to release.
But they also know that the experience can damage the relationship in the meantime.
This deserves a serious discussion.
It would also be awesome if women of the community could say their view on what they really think when they act to be emotionally involved with an orbiter, and then, how they feel about the actions of their current BF (if he end the relationship, or if he works to win her back).
We stay with someone because they fulfill certain needs.
When those needs change, those people change too.
Men who have awakened to this reality understand that their position in a woman's life is temporary.
They recognize that women often keep orbiters around for attention, validation, emotional support, or other benefits, and who may eventually become potential partners.
These men can represent something a woman's current partner either cannot provide or that she believes he cannot.
(This is very much the case for women who are with a man who f0cks them and gives them strong emotions, but lacks the emotional connection of a "beta", which she finds in these orbiters from which she supplies herself.)
Thing is, at some point, a woman can emotionally detach from her partner because she develops a crush on one of her orbiters.
I don't believe this necessarily indicates a psychological problem.
Even emotionally healthy women can experience this.
A man entering a relationship should understand that he may eventually face behavior like this.
So He have to "eat" some disrespect, while he wait for her to come back and "kill" the crush.
But, how do we react to that?
Let's do some examples:
1) In the animal kingdom, a lioness is interested in one lion, but another lion is also competing for her attention.
The two males fight, and the winner gets the opportunity to mate with her.
2) Humans: a woman is in a relationship, but she also has an orbiter. She begins to emotionally detach from her boyfriend and develops a crush on the other man.
Her boyfriend reacts aggressively. He raises his voice, confronts the rival, humiliates him, or uses intimidation to drive him away. In doing so, he attempts to assert dominance and preserve his relationship. We won her back. She's back, He owns her.
3) Humans (sosuave version)
The situation begins in the same way: a woman in a relationship develops a crush on one of her orbiters and starts to emotionally withdraw from her boyfriend.
Instead of competing, her boyfriend pulls back and allows her to make her own choices.
She may leave him for the other man, while the boyfriend moves on and starts looking for someone new.
Now, difficult situations can produce very different outcomes depending on how we respond.
Many people here will reject the animalistic approach, in which a man confronts a rival and tries to drive him away, and they'll teach and go for the 3), the sosuave version.
But the SoSuave approach has its own cost.
You may preserve your dignity, morals, value, respect, by refusing to compete for someone who is losing interest in you.
Yet you lose the relationship.
Many relationships are held and have been held on a razor's edge.
So many relationships have had that difficult moment that made them change for better.
I'm thinking that it's okay to walk away if you're disrespected, and at the same time, if you always walk away, what kind of relationship are we having with ourselves? We have the ability to see what is happening, but we have no patience or tolerance for it?
I mean, You move on and find another woman. But how likely is it that you will never encounter the same situation again?
We live in an age of constant digital interaction, where social media exposes women to an endless stream of potential romantic alternatives. For them, this means developing frequent crushes, comparing partners, and periodically reassessing their relationships.
Many men here have experienced a woman's emotional withdrawal after she develops an interest in someone else. They know that the intensity of a crush may eventually fade, giving that air, time to release.
But they also know that the experience can damage the relationship in the meantime.
This deserves a serious discussion.
It would also be awesome if women of the community could say their view on what they really think when they act to be emotionally involved with an orbiter, and then, how they feel about the actions of their current BF (if he end the relationship, or if he works to win her back).