Communicating Three Seperate Values At Once

[I'm Charming]

All this DJ stuff has left me feeling mildly schizophrenic, after a bad party last night I was left with the impression that I had three personalities - all of which were simultaneously being communicated to the people around me at once.

Initially I had my AFC qualities - quite, reserved and to be honest a bit sexually frustrated. I tend not to speak a lot because of how my voice, or the tone of it, comes across, I don't understand but people are always unsure of what I'm communicating - I think I come across very aggressively even when I don't intend to be.

Later on I had my Jerk qualities - in the face of overwhelming neghits from the people around me - male and female included, I took an awful awful lot of bashing, people seem determined to smash my remaining confidence into the ground, this just turns me into an *******, the moment I'm accosted even when I'm trying to be happy and just have fun with people I generally turn into an assh*le, I constantly neg people and just act generally aggressive, usually by this point I'm being constantly undermined.

Throughout the whole evening I had my DJ mindset, the piece of logic in the back of my mind telling my worse qualities to shut the f*ck up and telling me to keep my head up, look relaxed and persevere. It dissolved in the force of overwhelming amounts of alcohol, by the end of the night I just felt totally vulnerable, totally un-DJ.

I'm struggling SoSuave, I really f*cking am, when I meet new people I try to communicate strength and confidence but usually its transparent, within a few weeks of people knowing me I find myself dissolving into some stupid heirachy where I'm situated somewhere at the bottom.

A lot of huge general questions, but;

1. How can I communicate successfully with people on a regular basis. I'm too quiet and reserved, how can I make what I'm saying less awkward?

2. How can I communicate value when I'm just a skinny, spotty teen that seems to be undermined constantly?

3. How should I react to people being assh*les towards me?

Thanks for your patience and help folks in advance folks.

 

[In Motion]

1. How can I communicate successfully with people on a regular basis. I'm too quiet and reserved, how can I make what I'm saying less awkward?

2. How can I communicate value when I'm just a skinny, spotty teen that seems to be undermined constantly?

3. How should I react to people being assh*les towards me?

Thanks for your patience and help folks in advance folks.

1: http://www.kinowear.com/blog/vocal-projection/
read this and follow the steps. Become comfortable with yourself and your voice.

2:Its about confidence baby. Confidence is the key word.
http://www.kinowear.com/blog/building-an-attractive-personality/#more-101
How to build an attractive personality


3: Laugh it of man, be the AMOG.

In response to you having "multiple personalities", read this:
http://www.kinowear.com/blog/taking-off-the-false-mask/#more-104

 

[I'm Charming]

1: http://www.kinowear.com/blog/vocal-projection/
read this and follow the steps. Become comfortable with yourself and your voice.

2:Its about confidence baby. Confidence is the key word.
http://www.kinowear.com/blog/building-an-attractive-personality/#more-101
How to build an attractive personality


3: Laugh it of man, be the AMOG.

In response to you having "multiple personalities", read this:
http://www.kinowear.com/blog/taking-off-the-false-mask/#more-104

Thanks, but I should clarify, I have no problems with the tone or loudness of my voice - I'm very deep and pretty loud, this really isn't the problem, it's the way that I say things that puts people off.

Edit: Also, Third Link is great, thank you.