"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EmotionalGeek

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I'm meeting a girl tomorrow. She said "I want to talk". I feel like she wants to talk about commitment. She is alright but I don't want to commit right now but I want to still meet her. What is the good way to answer question "who are we?" and what frame should I hold?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you've never even met her she's not going to bring that up. No sane woman would do that on the first date. If she does you simple say NO we just met. Then RUN!

Realistically, IME woman don't bring that up until 2/3mos after dating. If they make it that far.
 

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She is alright but I don't want to commit right now but I want to still meet her. What is the good way to answer question "who are we?" and what frame should I hold?
Plan out your most feared questions and answer them as accurately as they can, from your perspective.

Leave it up to her how to respond.

E.g.

Who are we?

We are two people who get together and enjoy each other's company. I like being with you, and I hope you like being with me.

Is that all?

I like being with you, and I hope you like being with me.

Are we exclusive?

If you are asking me if you want to be exclusive, the answer is no. Maybe in the future, but it takes me a while to figure these things out. If you don't want to see me again I understand. I like you and I like being with you, and I hope you like me and I hope you like being with me. And I don't want an exclusive relationship.

practice saying that (if it's true, if not come up with your own words) and say them with complete evenness while holding eye contact. If anything it will make her hamster brain spin round and round.
 

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Plan out your most feared questions and answer them as accurately as they can, from your perspective.

Leave it up to her how to respond.

E.g.

Who are we?

We are two people who get together and enjoy each other's company. I like being with you, and I hope you like being with me.

Is that all?

I like being with you, and I hope you like being with me.

Are we exclusive?

If you are asking me if you want to be exclusive, the answer is no. Maybe in the future, but it takes me a while to figure these things out. If you don't want to see me again I understand. I like you and I like being with you, and I hope you like me and I hope you like being with me. And I don't want an exclusive relationship.

practice saying that (if it's true, if not come up with your own words) and say them with complete evenness while holding eye contact. If anything it will make her hamster brain spin round and round.
I thought about similar answer to first question but I like how you put it in better words. Thanks for pointing me her follow up questions. Two first I will answer similary but if she persist I will reflect it back to her and try to keep joking and fun attitude.
 

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try to keep joking and fun attitude.
No reason for joking or fun attitude. She asks a question, answer it. She wants a relationship, you don't. Attempting to hide your true nature or desire through humor is a sign of weakness.

You want what you want for reasons that you want. Be open about it and let the world sort themselves out. No need for deception.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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