coming on too strong

[Gandhi]

Had a date with a girl, she is a very good girl no sex and stuff. everything went well, movie then I decided to sneak onto a golf course with her to add some action, shes an athlete so she probably wanted to. she loved it, she was all over me in the movie and afterwards, she was crazy about me, but no obvious signs about kissing. after the date i drop her off at her freinds house, she hesitates to get out of the car but isn't acting very much like she wants me to kiss her. she leaves car and goes into house, about 5 seconds later she send me text saying "sorry for being awkward i thought you were goin to do something" I immediately call and tell her she forgot something in my car, she get out there and I tell her to sit down and say "you wanted to kiss me right?" and she just attacked me, never had a girl kiss me like that before. so we kiss more, I wisper in her ear how cute she is and tickle her a bit (first date but i figured out in movie tickling gets her going.) then all of a sudden she says :"omg ive gotta go" and pretty much runs inside, I roll down the window and ask her stupidly "are you pissed or something?" she says "no, im not mad" then she tweets a few minutes later "so freaked out" I text her and she says I startled her but she shouldn't have mentioned it, I tell her (after a but of arguing) "well if its too much for you to get over then fine, im not going to keep bickering over text about this, but if not then ill talk to you later, ive got to go, lots to do tomorrow, bye." I haven't texted her since and she hasn't texted me (this all happened yesterday evening). Shes a younger gilr than me, shes in high school and im a freshman in college locally (she goes to high school I went to). whats going on here guys? she was startled??? what the hell, am i doing everything right? not texting her and going AFC and everything, but just playing the quiet game.

 

[TheGambino]

Hmmm I was in quite similar situation but you played it better then me.

A religious HB9 chick was interested in me. I just came off waay to strong and kino'ed her heavily without making her comfortable. She just ran off when I had the chance to do it all slowly and turn it up step by step. You remained your cool, had fun with her, found out what she liked and what not and waited it out. She got comfortable with you and kissed you herself.

I think that's good. Dude don't be all about her from know on, don't check upon her tweets and react to it. Don't ask her what's wrong. Just be your cool self, build more rapport and get her comfortable (she needs that I can tell) If I just asked that HB9 out without coming off so strong like I did I could've had her around still. You should let it rest for a couple of days and ask her out in a week or 2 and have fun with her again.

You're doing all good she could be into you but still a virgin and not sure if she's ready for it. Don't rush it man, certain girls don't like that and I think youre dealing with one of them. Keep teasing her, escalating but don't rush it, make her warm and excited and play along step by step.

I rushed it with my old plate and she bailed eventually, and oh yeah don't get me wrong. Most girls like it when youre sexual from the start and escalate it, you just have to feel when a girl is in for it or when she's just needs some more time to get comfortable.

Don't ask her what's wrong, what's got her freaked out, why shes mad, analyze the situation blablabla just don't, I can tell by experience that you shouldn't. Don't let her know how you feel about her or anything like that. Just have fun at the date, drop her off and let her freak out byherself and let her think about you and wonder about you. Next time you see her be cool and build more rapport, get her comfortable and escalate without rushing

 

[LP700-4]

You didn't have to ask her if she was pissed and you shouldn't have asked her about the tweet. You should have just played it cool and acted like her running away or the tweet didn't phase you. Acted like you didn't even see the tweet.

 

[TheGambino]

You didn't have to ask her if she was pissed and you shouldn't have asked her about the tweet. You should have just player it cool and acted like her running away or the tweet didn't phase you. Acted like you didn't even see the tweet.

exactley

 

[Gandhi]

Thanks bro, I really appreciate it, i've come a ways from when I found this site a little more than a year ago. I also told her in our little "argument" that since she came on so strong I just came on strong back, which made her feel bad and start apologizing to me, I'm incredibly good at arguing with women, I can completely turn it around and make them the ones who end up apologizing to me in no time at all, then I just stop talking to them and wait for them to be the first to text or call back (I normally crack the next day but not this time!!! haha)

 

[Gandhi]

also, what should I do when she texts me? knowing girls these days it will probably be tomorrow and it will consist of "hey". should I stay quiet and mae her go crazy, or also while I was just in the shower I thought of something, when I was arguing with her I said at one point, "I used the think you were a really good girl but now im not sure" and she went ballistic saying "no no no no im not a wh0re please dont think that" so I could say tomorrow when she texts me that I had heard "some stories about her" from my friends and completely mind **** her hahaha. idk how that would go down though, what do you guys think?

 

[TheGambino]

I would say just keep it light man, replie with hey whatsup and keep texts short.

Don't chit chat too much and ask her out again. Don't analyze everything, I did that too it gets you nowhere. Why would you play mind games with her just be cool and get her out for a fun date again, that's all you need to do.

 

[beforeimgone]

I said at one point, "I used the think you were a really good girl but now im not sure" and she went ballistic saying "no no no no im not a wh0re please dont think that"

This one piece of interaction kinda ruined your chances of getting in bed with her any time soon.

..and by kinda I mean definitely

 

[TenOfSpades]

Your lack of thinking screwed you over. She went into her friends. She must have said a few sentences with her friend. She goes outside you kiss her for a bit. She worries what her friend might think. She freaks and goes oh i have to go back in before she wonders.

 

[LP700-4]

If she texts you, I would recommend not texting back.

 

[TheGambino]

If she texts you, I would recommend not texting back.

Based on what? Why would he not text her back.

Try not to give bitter and negative advice to people for no reason broski.
His case shows that they had fun, they made out, she's confused or whatever and that's it, doesn't even matter what she thinks. She showed up for the date, didn't flake, didn't show bad behaviour, all good.

Why would he make the whole situation awkward and more confusing by ignoring her. What did she deserve to get ignored?

Give me arguments man.

I think that's crap, just replie sweet and cool and keep your texts to the minimum. Remain the positive attitude. Ask her out in a week and a have fun and great date, build rapport and escalate.

 

[Gandhi]

Wow I'm loving the advice guys, this is helping me out so much, you don't know how much it means! I agree with the texting her back and being chill, not being bitter but not being too nice, idk what I was thinking when I wanted to mind **** her haha, weak thinking. But what do you guys think about me asking if she and a friend would like to go to a bball game at my college with me? Do you think me saying friend would make her more comfortable? idk if that's limp d1ck AFC or not.

 

[HyperAnalyze]

First,

You made it a big deal, now you sent her into a tail spin of emotions.

If you had just kept it cool and played it off like it was no big deal (which it wasn't),

you probably could have taken the beef bus to tuna town.

 

[Gandhi]

First,

You made it a big deal, now you sent her into a tail spin of emotions.

If you had just kept it cool and played it off like it was no big deal (which it wasn't),

you probably could have taken the beef bus to tuna town.

Yeah, I know. But I've made bigger **** ups than this and still come out alright, I just didnt know how to handle this one