I've been wondering, is it better to risk coming off as too aggressive or too passive?
I've talked to a few women who have told me about how they've had to rebuff some men's advances, that they were repulsed by how a particular guy tried to get physical with them. I would rather not be that guy >_>; I mean, it's definitely not fun to be the topic of an 'eww I hate that guy' story or be presented as a sort of stalkerish/creepy dude.
But at the same time, from my ultra-AFC days, I know that being timid gets you absolutely nowhere. Being too timid and avoiding/passing up chances for physical contact and escalation lost me several opportunities with women.
I'm currently in this phase where I'm breaking down my old boundaries, being more social, being more physical, kino'ing, etc., but I don't want to go over the line. One of my old fears when approaching women, is that if a woman is not in the mood to be approached or talked to (or in later stages, doesn't want to be touched by me), that me doing so would make them uncomfortable, or be annoying. I know this sentiment is ridiculous, as obviously you have to approach, but it's still a concern of mine.
I suppose what I'm getting at, is should I be a little more forward, or a little more passive? Or is there another, more nuanced approach I should be taking (and if so, what is it)?
I've talked to a few women who have told me about how they've had to rebuff some men's advances, that they were repulsed by how a particular guy tried to get physical with them. I would rather not be that guy >_>; I mean, it's definitely not fun to be the topic of an 'eww I hate that guy' story or be presented as a sort of stalkerish/creepy dude.
But at the same time, from my ultra-AFC days, I know that being timid gets you absolutely nowhere. Being too timid and avoiding/passing up chances for physical contact and escalation lost me several opportunities with women.
I'm currently in this phase where I'm breaking down my old boundaries, being more social, being more physical, kino'ing, etc., but I don't want to go over the line. One of my old fears when approaching women, is that if a woman is not in the mood to be approached or talked to (or in later stages, doesn't want to be touched by me), that me doing so would make them uncomfortable, or be annoying. I know this sentiment is ridiculous, as obviously you have to approach, but it's still a concern of mine.
I suppose what I'm getting at, is should I be a little more forward, or a little more passive? Or is there another, more nuanced approach I should be taking (and if so, what is it)?