Happy_Camper
Don Juan
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Hey i dunno if other guys have this problem but i sure do.
Usually when i see a girl i really like and known them for a short while, and perhaps they like me too, i am comfortable being **** & funny, confident and cool chatting with them over msn or email. It comes to a point where we have great conversations and deep rapport and leading them to calling me first.
But however, when i see them in real life, the girl i really like i get really nervous, anxious, awkard and paralyzed. When i talk to them its like im not really funny, confident and there are some awkward silence pauses. I cant think of good stuff to say and i lead to boring conversations as well.
On the phone i have this huge problem of ending the conversation too fast, and again with silent pauses even if the call has just been 3-5 mins! Im usually too serious and straightforward and not very "flirty" if u like to call it over the phone. I then remember to end the conversation first too seem like im busy and then say i have to go and hang up. This is one of the sad reasons why i dont really talk to girls over the phone and for a very long time because of this problem.
I even had two girls say to me once over msn "how come you're not this funny when i see you at school" etc. and i start to think this problem is starting to not go away.
I mean girls are not going to be your gf if u can only be funny confident etc. just online and not communicating face to face or over the phone.
I was wondering how can i get rid of this problem of:
1. being uncomfortable being around girls in real life as opposed to being a cool funny and confident friendly guy over msn.
2. Being able to have lengthier, fun and deep rapport conversations over the phone with little small talk. ( i know some ppl say they're not a phone person but i believe things can change. For example, tips i read was smile alot over the phone and your smile can reflect your voice and on the other side of the phone they can feel it. Any more of these tips? hehe)
3. Get over my nervousness and timidness around girls i like and especially ones where i think they like me too as well.
There is a girl right now who i think i might have a chance with but we havent even talked on the phone yet once but many times over msn for very long conversations. She even game me a call first but i wasnt there to pick it up and i believe i should escalate from chatting online to talking over the phone and then seeing and talking to her face to face because she is a conservative girl as well.
thanks a lot and happy holidays! :rock:
Usually when i see a girl i really like and known them for a short while, and perhaps they like me too, i am comfortable being **** & funny, confident and cool chatting with them over msn or email. It comes to a point where we have great conversations and deep rapport and leading them to calling me first.
But however, when i see them in real life, the girl i really like i get really nervous, anxious, awkard and paralyzed. When i talk to them its like im not really funny, confident and there are some awkward silence pauses. I cant think of good stuff to say and i lead to boring conversations as well.
On the phone i have this huge problem of ending the conversation too fast, and again with silent pauses even if the call has just been 3-5 mins! Im usually too serious and straightforward and not very "flirty" if u like to call it over the phone. I then remember to end the conversation first too seem like im busy and then say i have to go and hang up. This is one of the sad reasons why i dont really talk to girls over the phone and for a very long time because of this problem.
I even had two girls say to me once over msn "how come you're not this funny when i see you at school" etc. and i start to think this problem is starting to not go away.
I mean girls are not going to be your gf if u can only be funny confident etc. just online and not communicating face to face or over the phone.
I was wondering how can i get rid of this problem of:
1. being uncomfortable being around girls in real life as opposed to being a cool funny and confident friendly guy over msn.
2. Being able to have lengthier, fun and deep rapport conversations over the phone with little small talk. ( i know some ppl say they're not a phone person but i believe things can change. For example, tips i read was smile alot over the phone and your smile can reflect your voice and on the other side of the phone they can feel it. Any more of these tips? hehe)
3. Get over my nervousness and timidness around girls i like and especially ones where i think they like me too as well.
There is a girl right now who i think i might have a chance with but we havent even talked on the phone yet once but many times over msn for very long conversations. She even game me a call first but i wasnt there to pick it up and i believe i should escalate from chatting online to talking over the phone and then seeing and talking to her face to face because she is a conservative girl as well.
thanks a lot and happy holidays! :rock: