"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Comfort Traps

2Rocky

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How come you never recognize Comfort traps until we are deep in them?



How do you draw the line between striving for improvement and enjoying the results of the work that got you there?

I'm thinking

Job/career
Time demands
Leisure activities
Fitness
Relationships
Money and financing nice things

What it comes down to is that we have an ever changing "needs barrel". We address the lowest stave on the barrel. But it seems like the others lower as that one climbs.

(from Liebig's law of the minimum, often simply called Liebig's law or the law of the minimum, is a principle developed in agricultural science by Carl Sprengel (1840) and later popularized by Justus von Liebig. )

What do you do in your daily life to be sure you are addressing what needs addressed and dealt with in your life? and avoid the comfort traps of:
Good relationship -> neglect fitness and meeting new people
Good career -> living beyond your means -> not growing in your career or challenging yourself
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well you have to know yourself and be working towards something that that guy likes. Me I m quirky like to cook like asian girls. Don't mind learning new things. Still love my sports. That's enough to build a life and a goal from.

Most average people will be average. Self care resilience acceptance and self amusement are core skills. The rest is first world whinging.

Can I have another piece of chocolate cake
Tammy Baker must be losing her faith
Can I buy another cheap Picasso fake
Andy Warhol must be laughing in his grave

 
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Good post. There is only so much time in a day.

I think what you do each week should be a balance.

The best time management course I have seen to address balance is from Tony Robbins. His course has you review the categories of career, physical, emotional, financial, family, and spiritual.

The best tracking method for balance that I have seen is the journaling system by Ryder Carroll.

It takes some time to implement balance in your weekly activities but totally worth it.
 
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