"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Comfort Traps

2Rocky

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How come you never recognize Comfort traps until we are deep in them?



How do you draw the line between striving for improvement and enjoying the results of the work that got you there?

I'm thinking

Job/career
Time demands
Leisure activities
Fitness
Relationships
Money and financing nice things

What it comes down to is that we have an ever changing "needs barrel". We address the lowest stave on the barrel. But it seems like the others lower as that one climbs.

(from Liebig's law of the minimum, often simply called Liebig's law or the law of the minimum, is a principle developed in agricultural science by Carl Sprengel (1840) and later popularized by Justus von Liebig. )

What do you do in your daily life to be sure you are addressing what needs addressed and dealt with in your life? and avoid the comfort traps of:
Good relationship -> neglect fitness and meeting new people
Good career -> living beyond your means -> not growing in your career or challenging yourself
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Krueg

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ubercat

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Well you have to know yourself and be working towards something that that guy likes. Me I m quirky like to cook like asian girls. Don't mind learning new things. Still love my sports. That's enough to build a life and a goal from.

Most average people will be average. Self care resilience acceptance and self amusement are core skills. The rest is first world whinging.

Can I have another piece of chocolate cake
Tammy Baker must be losing her faith
Can I buy another cheap Picasso fake
Andy Warhol must be laughing in his grave

 
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bmp2cpm

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Good post. There is only so much time in a day.

I think what you do each week should be a balance.

The best time management course I have seen to address balance is from Tony Robbins. His course has you review the categories of career, physical, emotional, financial, family, and spiritual.

The best tracking method for balance that I have seen is the journaling system by Ryder Carroll.

It takes some time to implement balance in your weekly activities but totally worth it.
 
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