Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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These girls (once attracted) want their guys to be real and not all game.
Build commonalities.
Elicit Values (Styles EV routines is great for this).
Hope I've helped. Wish I could elaborate more. Its 4am.
ps. Ask this of fastseduction.com . They are much more knowlegeable about this type of thing over there.
Try not to think in phases. Build a good connection with her and talk about whatever you want. Be nice to her and make clear that you like her and let her become comfortable around you. This usually happens when you are also comfortable with her and when you like her. Thinking in phases and about what to do next and what to say will hinder you being comfortable with her and the situation. She will feel this and that will not do you any good.
Don´t care so much about words, they are not that important. Instead be confident with escalating kino and don´t forget to give her the one or other compliment in case you are not sure if she knows that you like her. Alltogether make sure to not forget making the moves. After you two are kissing she usually will be comfortable with you.
Milkman, sure - I just wanted to give you a better picture of where do I stand. The thing is I might have been too C&F and she got scared away because of "no connection". Now, I have a second shot so to speak and she seems to be responding pretty well. However, I am not sure how much "friendly" and "nice" should I act around her.
It seems kino will send the right message, though
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.