"come over or lose my number!!!"

[themiltman]

Whats going on guys. I recently had a situation with a girl im seeing.
History: We have been seeing each other for 3 months. We're not in a realationship we're just **** buddies, but i know she wants a relationship im just not ready.

Anyways so all is good friday. We go out seperatly. About a hour into the club i get a text.

Her: Having fun?
MeNo response) I didnt reply because i didnt feel like it.
45 mins later....
Her: Im going to be really pissed if you dont come over tonight.
Me: I might be over i gotta see whats goin on ill call you.

So that was it or so i thought...... The club is letting out and i see a girl i used to date in high school. Im talking to her for a minute and then i get a text.

Her: I know your probably talking to other *****es. Its not like your commited to anyone.
MeNo response) I didn't like the way she came @ Me.

About 30 mins later she calls me and i answer.

Her: "So are you coming over"?
Me: "Probably not im way to drunk( I didnt drive to the club that night)
If you want me to come over that bad come pick me up"
Her: "My friend drove me home"(She was drunk too and left her car @ the bar)
then she hit me with......
Her:"If you dont come over you can lose my number!!!"
Me: OK (click)

Now that was last friday. I didnt hear from her till tuesday. She has been texting me and calling me since. I haven't responded to her text nor have i answered her calls. I have no intentions of letting her go i just wanna teach her a lesson: HOMIE DONT PLAY THAT DISRESPECTFUL ****!!!

My question to you guys is have you been in a similar situation? Do you think i acted properly? Im not gonna lie i wanted to go over her house that night but when she demanded i come over that pissed me off.

 

[scribblec]

ive seen this situation happen all the time, it was an empty threat made on her part to get u to do what she wanted to... it didnt work and she realised her mistake and so now is calling u.

keep playing it the same way tbh

 

[themiltman]

I owe it to this forum. Im not a big poster I read more post. I learned alot by reading peoples mistakes some which are UNBELIEVABLE! Im not where I wanna be but I feel im getting close thx guys.

 

[moneyisking]

my god... i don know why but you just earned bit of my respect; that is some manly way to handle a girl. dam i am in some minor dilema after this thing with this chick (described in post below), but i can bring myself back up. i wish i have some buddy like you who i can learn some good advices from. Rep+

 

[themiltman]

Bump

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

sounds like an immature b1tch.

 

[Blusher]

She likes the guy. She's hurt, upset and she deals with it in a stupid way. she probably felt a bit stupid too when she sobered up the next morning but was probably just as glad she finally dealt with the dilemma: "Should I stay in this and wait til he commits even though it's eating me from the inside or take a drastic step and move on?"

she did, you guys are done. Move on. Obviously she's not cut for a no-strings attached relationship and you're not willing to commit. Time to both cash your chips and leave the table.

HOWEVER, I always ended on good terms in such situations rather than give in the ensuing name calling fight.

It takes a minute to simply text her, say you enjoyed the time with her and wish her the best. It shows a bit of empathy and class. The "OK" message was a good one. Shows that you're not grovelling for more poony, acting a bit detached goes a long way.

I wouldn't be surprised if she came back in a couple of months once she realizes she'd rather share a good thing than be alone on the next loser.

note: one text message I never answered was from a girl I was seeing very very casually (read : sex only) She would have loved a relationship but our sex was great. On New Year's Eve that year she sent me a message wishing me a great year and saying that her good resolution was to never see me again and that she hoped to stick to it. She made it sound like sleeping with me was a highly addictive drug which a part of me found flattering.

Sometimes it feels good to let them go and find someone they can play boyfriend girlfriend with. Just don't burn bridges; she'll be back for more action after her next break up.

 

[stevenfrank38]

Well the girl is for sure a character and loves to maintain it properly ....