So I was sitting here surfing the internet bored out of my mind until I stumbled upon this neat little website. I notice a lot of guys seem to be having issues with the opposite sex, and I feel like helping you all out.
Now I have had tons of problems with girls, I have messed up many situations, and have even totaly screwed up great relationships, but what I did do correctly was learn from my mistakes.
One thing about me you might notice is that I'm young, but I'm not stupid and I have always loved women and have respected them--I listen to them. I am not gay, but I am not affraid to show some qualities which have been labeled "feminine" over the years.
So I am making this post to reply to most of the posts in this forum, I just don't feel like replying to every single one of them.
Now for starters you should always repsect yourself. This is key to being confident and it usually leads to keeping yourself well groomed, which even though you might not be attractive will help you tremendously.
Another attractive feature is confidence. When you are looking for a woman do you look at the ones that walk with their head down and always seem to be frowning? No, so why would a woman look for a guy that walks with his head down like he is not proud of himself? She wouldn't.
Listening is one of the most attractive features in a man, maybe it's just because it is such a rare find to find a man that actually listens, I don't know, but it's something you need. This will also help you keep a conversation going for longer than two minutes.
Approaching a girl can be tough, believe me I know. I grew up being an extremely shy kid affraid to even speak to fellow classmates. But I grew up and broke out of my shell, and yes I was rejected many times, but I got over it and moved on. Now back to approaching, when you walk up don't try to walk like you're macho and cool, because if you do you're obviously not. When you finally get to her, after walking like a normal person, introduce yourself while shaking her hand (a firm hand shake, don't hurt her though) and ask her her name. Now this second part is what makes or breaks most guys, it's the part that requires you to come up with logical questions in order to spark a good conversation. I can't tell you what to say in every situation, you have to learn this on your own, but most of the time asking them where they are from or what they are doing for a living is a good start.
In a conversation always look in her eyes, do not stare, but don't let your eyes wander either.
Also, that rule where it is stated that you shouldn't call a girl for a couple days after you meet her is a great rule, abide by it.
I know these tips are kind of out of order, but bear with me.
This next issue is a huge problem for men, they think woman only want the big muscular macho men who show no signs of sensitivity or passion of any kind. Well I'm just going to say that's not correct. My roomates tell me that drinking a cappuccino, or finding certain art pieces interesting is gay and will scare off women. And the odd part about their theory is that they haven't been with nearly as many women as I have and I'm usually the one that has to approach the girls. Little things like this (maybe not the cappuccino thing) make you interesting, women love to meet an interesting man with some depth to him, and this also helps with conversations. Note, I'm not saying you have to enjoy visits to Starbucks or some art museum, but find activities that you like doing to make yourself interesting. A conversation invovling you traveling to some remote location to rock climb or maybe even hang glide is much more intresting then "I sat at home saturday and watched the game" which I understand since I'm a huge Buckeyes and Bengals fan, but women don't.
Bragging about your body is probably the worst thing you could do, and besides it's much more fun letting them figure that out on their own anyways. Having a nice fit body is a great thing, and will help you with confidence.
Alright I'm getting tired and I have class tomorrow, so this next part will be rushed.
Don't curse! It's very unattractive especially to a classy woman.
Be polite.
Treat all women with respect even if you don't find them attractive.
PAY for everything on a date, well the material stuff.
Be well dressed, look up pictures of male models and find which styles you like and wear them. Always highlight your better looking features.
Ok I'm out of here, if you have any questions just ask. This post probably isn't complete, but I'm tired. Good Luck Guys!
Now I have had tons of problems with girls, I have messed up many situations, and have even totaly screwed up great relationships, but what I did do correctly was learn from my mistakes.
One thing about me you might notice is that I'm young, but I'm not stupid and I have always loved women and have respected them--I listen to them. I am not gay, but I am not affraid to show some qualities which have been labeled "feminine" over the years.
So I am making this post to reply to most of the posts in this forum, I just don't feel like replying to every single one of them.
Now for starters you should always repsect yourself. This is key to being confident and it usually leads to keeping yourself well groomed, which even though you might not be attractive will help you tremendously.
Another attractive feature is confidence. When you are looking for a woman do you look at the ones that walk with their head down and always seem to be frowning? No, so why would a woman look for a guy that walks with his head down like he is not proud of himself? She wouldn't.
Listening is one of the most attractive features in a man, maybe it's just because it is such a rare find to find a man that actually listens, I don't know, but it's something you need. This will also help you keep a conversation going for longer than two minutes.
Approaching a girl can be tough, believe me I know. I grew up being an extremely shy kid affraid to even speak to fellow classmates. But I grew up and broke out of my shell, and yes I was rejected many times, but I got over it and moved on. Now back to approaching, when you walk up don't try to walk like you're macho and cool, because if you do you're obviously not. When you finally get to her, after walking like a normal person, introduce yourself while shaking her hand (a firm hand shake, don't hurt her though) and ask her her name. Now this second part is what makes or breaks most guys, it's the part that requires you to come up with logical questions in order to spark a good conversation. I can't tell you what to say in every situation, you have to learn this on your own, but most of the time asking them where they are from or what they are doing for a living is a good start.
In a conversation always look in her eyes, do not stare, but don't let your eyes wander either.
Also, that rule where it is stated that you shouldn't call a girl for a couple days after you meet her is a great rule, abide by it.
I know these tips are kind of out of order, but bear with me.
This next issue is a huge problem for men, they think woman only want the big muscular macho men who show no signs of sensitivity or passion of any kind. Well I'm just going to say that's not correct. My roomates tell me that drinking a cappuccino, or finding certain art pieces interesting is gay and will scare off women. And the odd part about their theory is that they haven't been with nearly as many women as I have and I'm usually the one that has to approach the girls. Little things like this (maybe not the cappuccino thing) make you interesting, women love to meet an interesting man with some depth to him, and this also helps with conversations. Note, I'm not saying you have to enjoy visits to Starbucks or some art museum, but find activities that you like doing to make yourself interesting. A conversation invovling you traveling to some remote location to rock climb or maybe even hang glide is much more intresting then "I sat at home saturday and watched the game" which I understand since I'm a huge Buckeyes and Bengals fan, but women don't.
Bragging about your body is probably the worst thing you could do, and besides it's much more fun letting them figure that out on their own anyways. Having a nice fit body is a great thing, and will help you with confidence.
Alright I'm getting tired and I have class tomorrow, so this next part will be rushed.
Don't curse! It's very unattractive especially to a classy woman.
Be polite.
Treat all women with respect even if you don't find them attractive.
PAY for everything on a date, well the material stuff.
Be well dressed, look up pictures of male models and find which styles you like and wear them. Always highlight your better looking features.
Ok I'm out of here, if you have any questions just ask. This post probably isn't complete, but I'm tired. Good Luck Guys!
