"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I dunno...I just think the blue, gray, and white is kinda sickly. Both on the main page AND on the forum. Maybe you should try changing it up? Maybe some warmer colors...something darker and easier on the eyes.

The old main page was easy on the eyes and comfortable to read. The new one, having a white background, is like staring into a light bulb.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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like staring into a light bulb.
I've head that quite a many times...
It's true though.

I liked the oldschool color theme (as I even remember it anymore)
I said this before and I say it now:
Let's get that oldschool colors back!
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
For those who don't remember (or weren't here for) the old color scheme, here it is:

http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001472.html
ha! i prefer this 1, but i must say i prefered the old colour scheme of the main site, its to plain now and looks like somthing done by a total amture messing around with microsoft frontpage!
 

Giovanni Casanova

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If you go into your user settings on this forum you can change your colors to pink.

I don't know why you'd want to, but you can.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
If you go into your user settings on this forum you can change your colors to pink.

I don't know why you'd want to, but you can.
Yes, and if I remember correctly, they weren't there when the new forums started... They were ADDED later and were adverticed with an announcement!
 
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