"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dr.PepperDrinker
New Member
with the amount of grade inflation these days 3.9 gpa means **** diddly dum. Is that unweighted or weighted? If you're a well rounded student who took challenging classes, you're off to a great start in the rat race. Your sat's are good enough to be in the median figures for the better schools. However, don't expect to get in to harvard based on that... they get 3x the amount of students applying with the same or better stats than they have in their applicant pool.
You should post what classes you took if you want to paint a more accurate picture of how strong a student you are, i.e. number of aps, honors, or ibs you took.
Check out www.collegeboard.com for their college search. You might also want to go to your library and get the Fisk's college guide.
Try to visit the colleges you want to attend during your next vacation... i.e. check out the nightlife, food, diversity, student to professor ratio, majors offered, etc etc...
You should be elgible to receive merit based scholarships, so when you fill out your applications, don't forget to fill out your fafsa form.
With a good set of gpa and sat like you have... you should be able to get into all schools except for the exclusive ivy leaguers and stanford... since theres just so many damn over achievers out there.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
imnexthere
Don Juan
Yup, you've got a good combo of grades + extra curicular you should be able to hit some nice scholarships.
SnatchJP
Senior Don Juan
Based on what you've got, you're pretty much in at any state-level schools you'd apply to. I'd look around at liberal arts schools and maybe even a couple ivies if you're so inclined.
Once you get to the ivies though, gpa and sats will neither help, nor hinder you. Once you have good grades and test scores, admission is based on sheer luck. This year Yale said they selected only one fifth of the applicants who were "good enough" to get in because of class size limitations. They couldn't pick the best because there was no clear group that was the best. So they had to accept and decline based on almost random statistics like location and race, future majors, etc to make a diverse freshman class.
Beyond luck, you want to rack up good essays, reccomendation letters and extracurricular activities.
Just as an example, I go to a small private high school with all-honors courses. (Nobody has ever graduated with a 4.0, the work is too hard.) I had a 3.8 GPA and an SAT of 1490. (700 math, 790 verbal)
I was rejected by Harvard and Stanford, waitlisted by Amhesrt and Pomona (who was oddly enough statistically more selective than Harvard this year), accepted flat by University of Chicago, Oberlin and Reed, and accepted with a $10,000 annual merit scholarship to Occidental. Many of the desicions would have been different had my reccomendations, essay, and extracurriculars been different.
Once again, talk to your school's college or guidance counselor. They can help you build an application.
Oh and apply to schools like Harvard even if you don't think you'll get in. You may have only about a 5% chance if you apply, but you'll have exactly a 0% chance if you don't.