"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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College -- What's interesting

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I'm going to college to get a management degree.

In classes, you always hear the same song: "your company..." "there are good jobs waiting for you when you get this degree" "your employer..."

And I shake my head... heh. People don't even CONSIDER ther option of they having their own company, making jobs instead of finding them. That's why most people keep being "lemmings"... and they wonder why they don't go far. And blame the system, the media, you know, the communists' classics. :rolleyes:

Thank god I already have my business. I'm going to college to learn more, not exactly to get a job as I already have one. :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are getting a management degree.... what is so interesting about that?
 

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Originally posted by DrMetallica
You are getting a management degree.... what is so interesting about that?
Yeah really?

What's so great about college? You could get all the knowledge that you are going to class for from home. Nearly 95% of accredited universities and colleges give you an option of gaining credits from home.

If you already have your own business, why are you stepping away to go to college?

How long is your management course as well? Is it a retreat, a seminar, a workshop? What's the deal yo?
 

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Originally posted by djbr
People don't even CONSIDER ther option of they having their own company, making jobs instead of finding them.
Those are the people who would never be able to run their own company anyway.

College is good for a lot of things. Say I wanted to become a neuro-biologist. How would I ever find a job without a degree? Or what about jobs where you need a license, such as engineering? Also, not everything can be learned from books. Sometimes you need to work with equipment, and I also definitely know that if I didn't have my professors available to ask questions, I would be learning much more slowly.
 

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Re: Re: College -- What's interesting

Originally posted by Nocturnal
Also, not everything can be learned from books. Sometimes you need to work with equipment, and I also definitely know that if I didn't have my professors available to ask questions, I would be learning much more slowly.
Nice, I forgot that part of studying. Note to self start throwing this into my lifestyle conversations...

So what is it that you come to sosuave for Nocturnal? The conversations or having other 'prfessors' available to ask questions?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Re: Re: Re: College -- What's interesting

Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
So what is it that you come to sosuave for Nocturnal? The conversations or having other 'prfessors' available to ask questions?
It used to be the latter, now it is the former. I don't really use sosuave as a means of learning anymore... I feel like I have gotten to the point where I can make my own conclusions about pretty much anything I would ask. Usually when I choose to enter some form of discussion, it's so I can put my ideas down and extrapolate on them so that I get a better idea of them myself.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: College -- What's interesting

Originally posted by Nocturnal
It used to be the latter, now it is the former. I don't really use sosuave as a means of learning anymore... I feel like I have gotten to the point where I can make my own conclusions about pretty much anything I would ask. Usually when I choose to enter some form of discussion, it's so I can put my ideas down and extrapolate on them so that I get a better idea of them myself.
Same, I still think I can learn from this site though...

I am trapped in virtual perpetuation of the former. With the conversations on this site, and hoping for people to respond with better more unique answers.

Most people only respond to questions that relate to their own experience. Whether the experience is actually inexperience and the desire to extrapolate their own system of thought, or they are just there to put down their two cents on a subject they believe in is in the eyes of the beholder.

I do hope to go back to college. I flunked out last time due to my own stupidity... I am hoping to hammer it out of me before the new year starts...
 

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Originally posted by DrMetallica
You are getting a management degree.... what is so interesting about that?
I usually blame my cheap azz english when people don't get what I'm trying to say. But this time it's different. Try to read the ENTIRE post ok?
 

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I could easily buy some books and all. But college gives me other things, such as

1) Credibility. It's different to have a college degree, simple as that.
2) Experience, personal and from others. I can touch the minds of people that are MUCH MORE informed than I am, and no book will give me that. Yeah, I can get the knowledge from books, but person to person is different.
3) Time. They have everything ready and packed, I go there just to get it. I can spend my free time practicing what I learn instead of reading.

But my post have nothing to do with it. What I find really weird is that they don't even mention the possibility of the guy running his own business.

But it went wayyy off-topic, heh.
 

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People who are studying what they don't like get their own. Enjoy your worthless degree. If you are going to college to learn, and you don't find it interesting, you are wasting your time.

Philosophy, english lit, journalism, accounting, finance, urban planning, civil engineering, surveying, I find all those interesting majors.

Now, did you just create this thread to toot your own horn and say "look at me! I am better than those sheep because I of this..."? Really...? Are you?
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wonder why no one has made a mention in regards to your socail life in college? College years are ment to be the best of your life and come on, the amount of HBs around many colleges can be unnatural! :rolleyes:

That aside, the reason many of us ( including me ) are going to college is to learn something that we wouldn't learn / slash have major problems learning it ourselves. There a few exceptions to the rule, you could become a Graphic Designer ( using that as an example... plus its what I'm doing ) without going to college, but as a general rule, almost all Graphic Designers have a degree!

That and I may want to be a teacher someday and the only way to become one is to go through college!
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: College -- What's interesting

Originally posted by Nocturnal
It used to be the latter, now it is the former. I don't really use sosuave as a means of learning anymore... I feel like I have gotten to the point where I can make my own conclusions about pretty much anything I would ask. Usually when I choose to enter some form of discussion, it's so I can put my ideas down and extrapolate on them so that I get a better idea of them myself.
Indeed. It's cool that we have a place to discuss our ideas with like minded people.
 

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Originally posted by DrMetallica
People who are studying what they don't like get their own. Enjoy your worthless degree. If you are going to college to learn, and you don't find it interesting, you are wasting your time.

Philosophy, english lit, journalism, accounting, finance, urban planning, civil engineering, surveying, I find all those interesting majors.

Now, did you just create this thread to toot your own horn and say "look at me! I am better than those sheep because I of this..."? Really...? Are you?
You're bringing up this "better than..." idea. I didn't. I'm not better than anyone. Again, from where did you take this idea? Because I said thank god I'm not one of them? Well, I was one of them until I found this forum. And to tell you something, many people on this forum have business, bigger may I mention, and the degree they have is the HIGH SCHOOL ones. My father started from scratch and made an awesome amount of assets. He didn't even finish elementary school. I admire these people, all of them. To say that I was trying to put myself above anyone is just plain absurd. The thing I most do on this forum (and everywhere else) is admire people who achieved what I want, and the ones who have things that I can learn from them. And sincerely, thanks for making me finally write this. Rollo Tomassi, STR8UP, to name some (nick)names that came to mind.

Who said I didn't like what I'm studying? I do! And that is not the point (again).

My point is that they don't mention people should at least try having their own business. It's not that I'm better than them, it's that I was expecting to hear something like this from my teachers, as it is a business school. This was something mentioned on this forum some time ago, but I was wondering and posted a new thread about it. I said I have my business just to make a point, not to gloss myself. Hell, anyone can do it, and this is exactly why I posted this. Why then don't motivate people to do it so my country can (finally) grow? So we can be free of those government jobs that EVERYBODY craves cause there's not enough jobs outside it?? What happened to the small companies?

But if YOU have a problem with it, please hit Ignore. I'm just trying to have a healthy discussion here OK? Thanks for your compreension.
 

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Re: Re: College -- What's interesting

Originally posted by Nocturnal
Those are the people who would never be able to run their own company anyway.

College is good for a lot of things. Say I wanted to become a neuro-biologist. How would I ever find a job without a degree? Or what about jobs where you need a license, such as engineering? Also, not everything can be learned from books. Sometimes you need to work with equipment, and I also definitely know that if I didn't have my professors available to ask questions, I would be learning much more slowly.
Well, you made an interesting point. I always thought I COULD have my own business, but I thought too that I would not be able to run it. This site changed this limiting belief. But I had the dream, so to speak.
 

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lol.

This site has (also) completly changed my way of thinking too. Im not sure what I want to do in life but I have some very different and interesting and more realistic plans on how to get what I want. Im so glad I found this site at my age...lol who would have thoght an internet site could be this life changing.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Um, you do realise, if everyone ran their own business, there'd be nobody to do the work.
 

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I think people need to understand that college is more then just a place where you learn about subjects printed in a book and vomitted back up by some know it all professor. College should be a learning enviroment for life and living themselves. Social interaction, multi tasking, time managment, these are all things that you'll need where ever you end up in the world doing whatever it is you want to get out of living.

The best part about it is while you're learning these living task you can seek advice, learn from the examples of others, and fail from time to time without completely ruining your life. I found college very interesting in that respect. Classes were never that much of a problem but that's because I have a high aptitude for learning, but after a while i realized that learning material is a small portion in the overall scheme of what I was getting out of being in college.
 

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Originally posted by PRMoon
I think people need to understand that college is more then just a place where you learn about subjects printed in a book and vomitted back up by some know it all professor. College should be a learning enviroment for life and living themselves. Social interaction, multi tasking, time managment, these are all things that you'll need where ever you end up in the world doing whatever it is you want to get out of living.

The best part about it is while you're learning these living task you can seek advice, learn from the examples of others, and fail from time to time without completely ruining your life. I found college very interesting in that respect. Classes were never that much of a problem but that's because I have a high aptitude for learning, but after a while i realized that learning material is a small portion in the overall scheme of what I was getting out of being in college.
Man, I really blew college.
 
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