College Story Situation..Short Post, Requesting Advice

[NatureBoy14]

Hey guys,
Quick story, wanted all of your DJ takes. I met a girl at my college, she lives in the same dorm. Very, very hot chick. Now I'm a soph she's a frosh and it's awesome that we live in the same building but sucks at the same time. We hungout all week last week, non hookup. We hungout this week pretty much every day, and got biz every night. We had some kickass sex two nights ago. We have a lot of fun with each other, but I know that deep down I'm interested in more then just whats between her legs.
I'm not being AFC thought, at least I don't think so, I see her every night only because she finds ways to come hangout with me. I never go to see her or ask her to hanguot. I never call or IM her, she always comes to me. I never compliment her, or exhibit any wuss behavior, and I make sure I'm always in control.
I do want this to go to the next level, but is it too early? I'm tired of the one nighters, but this doesnt seem to be one. Her interest level seems to be majorly high, but she told me once (before we started hooking up) that she puts up a wall with guys. Last night we just hungout with a bunch of friends till about 3 am, and people think we are together already and whats great is that there is like a fan club of guys that like her and hate me for it. When she left my apartment she kissed me on the lips. Is this marking her terrirtory or something?
Let me know playas and pros.....Naitch

 

[D4H]

before another moron says it..... ill just say it for him.

"NEEXXXXTTTTT!!!!!!"

 

[PRMoon]

Word of advice

Stay the course Mr. Trustard! Don't even THINK of trying to advance with this chick. What the hell are you doing as a sophmore looking for a long term relationship? If you want this thing to pan out well and be able to look back on it saying to yourself "Yeah I handled that well, those were good times" then you need to continue to not call unless its to see if she knows where there's a bangin kegger or what not. When a girl tells you she puts up walls with guys then you need to RESPECT THAT **** and don't try to advance. She's a freshman and in a weird place you need to keep her there and forget trying to reach some new level with her, its a pipe dream which is the fastest way get her on some other dudes jock.

You need to be ambivalent about the whole thing. Don't call her too much, don't go looking for her ever, remember stuff she says so you can intentionally forget later, don't go making buddy buddy with any of her friends who aren't also hot girls. You've got to keep a level head about this sort of thing. Objectifying her will prolong the "relationship" rather then actually trying for a sensible one.

Trust me I was in the same spot as you when i was freshman and I blew it because i started pushing for the relationship and she slowly but surely started to push away from me when i started coming over her room, and calling her and all that sh*t. You're new to college, its a time when girls and guys reinvent themselves and start over, you need to exploit that in her to the fullest and not worry so much about her feelings because she doesn't even know where she is these days and you trying to direct traffic will only make your road hard and painful.

In the meantime there's always someone better out there so, as i so adimately preach, keep on the look out for other chics, your time is limited and as a newbie to college this is your best time to score before you start getting paid.

 

[echo1212]

Try not to listen to what some of the guys on here say. They are young and many of the people offering advice have never even been on a date, let alone had sex.

I graduated from Michigan State in 93', and lived in the dorms for a year, so let me offer you some advice.

First, there is nothing wrong in being in a relationship in college, I personally wouldnt recomend it just for the fact there are so many other girls around, but if you find someone you really like and enjoy spending time with, go for it. Just be prepared for the consequences since most of these relationships dont work out. Then again, what ones do lol.

Anyway, what I would do to begin with is to stop spending so much time with her right now. 2-3 times a week is plenty. Go on REAL dates,and dont just spend so much time in your apt. You'll quickly get bored of one another and the relationship will fizzle if you just hang out there. Keep things fun and light, and if you do this without pressuring things, the relationship will gradually work its way into something serious without you having to bring it up or say anything. Sometimes you'll have to say no to her requests to come over. Say your busy even if your not, but your best bet IS to be busy. There are sooooo many things to do in college that no way you should have to be home every night spending it with her.

You'll find that if you have fun with her in a nonpressuring way, and each lead your own seperate lives, you'll end up a much happier and well adjusted couple-if thats what you want. The key is to not get whiny or obssesed over her, or have your whole college experience hinge on what your doing with her. Hope this helps.

 

[Rahul]

Just fvck her as much as possible and keep your emotions out of it. Eventually SHE will fall in love with YOU not the other way around. Chicks cant have sex without becoming emotionally involved.

 

[Tkman]

I dont see the problem ... no string attached !!! Stay a men and dont get emotionally attached to her [Think of her as F'Buddy].

 

[D4H]

Does that make you a moron then?

P.S. - I wouldn't NEXT this one. Why would you?

No, since I was being sarcastic and mocking some of the other morons ive seen do this.