Bluesteak
Don Juan
I was just wondering if there is any better openers for talking to girls in my new classes because there will most likely be alot of HBs, but I don't want to use the standard "Hi, my name is bluesteak, whats yours?"
Why not?Bluesteak said:I don't want to use the standard "Hi, my name is bluesteak, whats yours?"
You don't want to be that guy who introduces himself to everyone on the first day of class. That guy comes on a little too strong.Bluesteak said:I was just wondering if there is any better openers for talking to girls in my new classes because there will most likely be alot of HBs, but I don't want to use the standard "Hi, my name is bluesteak, whats yours?"
thing is, its not really "standard" cus most guys wont even do thatBluesteak said:I was just wondering if there is any better openers for talking to girls in my new classes because there will most likely be alot of HBs, but I don't want to use the standard "Hi, my name is bluesteak, whats yours?"
I disagree. What's so strong about saying hi to everyone?. Still being in school, i actually went even stronger by being direct in class. Girls like it alot. This is from personal experience. I was a freshman and people thought i was an upper classman cuz of this. Be that guy that introduces urself to the people seated around u. Other guys are worrying "Will it be too strong?" too. Be the exception.MikeYikes122 said:You don't want to be that guy who introduces himself to everyone on the first day of class. That guy comes on a little too strong.
This i agree with except u can be to the point. U dont' have to be indirect like this. U can just talk to her w/o even worrying about classes or what not.What I used to do was, come in a little bit late, make kind of an entrance and sit down near one of the hot girls in the class. Just ask her what dorm she lives in or something like that. No need to creative, and no need to rush anything by getting her number or anything like that. You'll see her every time you have class. Just keep talking to her and build a rapport with her.
You can get away with doing that without coming on too strong, but you have to be very nonchalant about it. Don't immediately spring out of your chair and shake the hand of the first person that walks in the room and sits near you. Stay real laidback if you're going to do a formal introduction like that. Keep it cool and try to strike up a conversation with small talk first.DonJoseCantosie said:I disagree. What's so strong about saying hi to everyone?. Still being in school, i actually went even stronger by being direct in class. Girls like it alot. This is from personal experience. I was a freshman and people thought i was an upper classman cuz of this. Be that guy that introduces urself to the people seated around u. Other guys are worrying "Will it be too strong?" too. Be the exception.
Only do this in a big lecture with 100s of people. Don't do this in a small discussion class. Again, you will look like a clown if you walk into a small class the first day and bust out of the gate with something this strong. Not only will you weird the girl out, but you'll weird out everyone in your class sitting within earshot.DonJoseCantosie said:My advice and only criticize if u tried this. Go sit right next to the girl u want. U tell her that ur sitting here cuz u find her real cute, and that u will talk to her now. She'll light up, trust me. Then just talk to her about what u can think of: Classes, being a freshmen, where u both from, about her, etc.
Try it. This is the best one imo, why try everything else? U want her to know u like what u see with the risk of her not returning ur interests. Thats confidence rather than playing it safe, "hoping" she'll like u.
And why can't u do this in a small discussion class? How will u look like a clown? Why would people in the class care? Is this something u've experienced and know for sure or is it assumptions? . From my experience, people will look in a positive light. Thats the worst that will happen, but guess what? Doing this will have the girls show more interest. They'll be showing even more interest cuz u look like ur good with women by talking to a hot girl. She'll be very receptive or shy, either or are good. How in the world would it weird everyone out? All ur doing is sitting down on a seat next to a girl, doing it cuz u think she's cute, she knows this, u talk to her. yes its weird but its good that its weird that it sets u apart from guys who are too afraid to.MikeYikes122 said:Only do this in a big lecture with 100s of people. Don't do this in a small discussion class. Again, you will look like a clown if you walk into a small class the first day and bust out of the gate with something this strong. Not only will you weird the girl out, but you'll weird out everyone in your class sitting within earshot.
Thats def going overboared. lol. If its a dude, or people u want to meet. yep, i agree. But don't have to be so laid back to the point ur about to fall asleep.lol. Also if its a girl, if u don't care for small talk...why even do it?MikeYikes122 said:You can get away with doing that without coming on too strong, but you have to be very nonchalant about it. Don't immediately spring out of your chair and shake the hand of the first person that walks in the room and sits near you. Stay real laidback if you're going to do a formal introduction like that. Keep it cool and try to strike up a conversation with small talk first.
Yea, i agree here.Still, I think the best idea is to just make small talk with the people around you about the class, what's going on around campus and things like that. You have the whole semester to introduce yourself to these people and get to know them. Why rush things?
oh this is what u were talking about by "trying too hard" ok, i understand now. What i was saying was, if ur seated down and people are sitting near u, to strike up conversation and not be shy to sit next to girls.I remember I had an English class with a kid who I always suspected of being on this site. He did a lot of the things that this site endorses and took some of the DJ Bible teachings way too literally. On the first day of class, he introduced himself to all the hot girls. It was a Comp 101 class of about 20-people, five of them were hot girls. He walked up and down the aisles and introduced himself first to the hot girls, then to the other people. He looked like a clown.
Can do that during class. Don't have to wait. But remember, some girls drop classes. There was this one girl whom i decided to wait gaming and she was the hottest, but guess what? She dropped the class. If only i had talked to her the first day, things could've been different. Topic creator, here's something u should do. Every time u arrive in class, sit next to a girl u like each class for a bit. This will increase ur chances of getting with one from class. In a small discussion class, it might not be as easy as there could be assigned seats and u can run out fast. But lecture hall is def easy cuz there are so many of them. If one doesn't work out, move on to the next.I would really recommend playing it cool the first day.
A real good way to get to know girls in your classes is when you see them outside of class. If one is standing in front of you in line at the bookstore or something, tap her on the shoulder and ask her if she has class with you. That's a good way to introduce yourself and break the ice.
Direct game is fine and it works for a lot of guys, but it's not something you should practice in a small discussion class with 15 people. If you sit down in a small class like that and say something like "hey, I think you're cute. I want to get to know you" to a girl, other people in the class will hear you and you will trigger all her anti-slut defenses. She will know others are listening and will be wary of that.DonJoseCantosie said:And why can't u do this in a small discussion class? How will u look like a clown? Why would people in the class care? Is this something u've experienced and know for sure or is it assumptions? . From my experience, people will look in a positive light. Thats the worst that will happen, but guess what? Doing this will have the girls show more interest. They'll be showing even more interest cuz u look like ur good with women by talking to a hot girl. She'll be very receptive or shy, either or are good. How in the world would it weird everyone out? All ur doing is sitting down on a seat next to a girl, doing it cuz u think she's cute, she knows this, u talk to her. yes its weird but its good that its weird that it sets u apart from guys who are too afraid to.
The specific opener really doesn't even matter. It's all the subcommunication behind it. Have good subcommunication and confidence and you can probably say anything to her and still get a good response. But lol I was just at my college today(Technically yesterday since it's past 12:00), and I mostly just opened either high fiving the chicks or simply saying hi and got good results. College starts today for me.Bluesteak said:I was just wondering if there is any better openers for talking to girls in my new classes because there will most likely be alot of HBs, but I don't want to use the standard "Hi, my name is bluesteak, whats yours?"