"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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College Rommate bringing me down

Voice

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College is awesome, except for a few things. First of all it's real hard to get into parties as freshman. But I know the solution to that, guy/girl ratio, I'm working on that...

Second problem I'm having real trouble making friends with girls IN my dorm. It's real hard when you have a roommate like I have. Goofy, nerdy, boring, awkward are a few things that describe him. I mean real nice kid, but he follows me everywhere and people are starting to associate him with me. I brought him tailgating with some of my friends from high school before a football game and they just laughed at him. Ugh, there are these girls in my dorm that came by the other day and told us we "should come out of our shells" and come out because they never see us. It was like they were trying to help us out socially or something. It felt pathetic. Anyway in terms of a wingman, he's worthless. Sucks because I'm trying to get into some kind of group in my dorm. I feel like I'm on the outside a little bit. Kids I made friends with on the first floor I hardly ever see and it feels like we are drifting away a little.

Another thing I noticed is it's real hard actually living with girls on your floor. I feel like I got to be at my best at all times. I have no time to relax and walk around without being all uptight about my appearance or mood. Damn that part sucks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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well first of all is about the room how is he stoping you from approaching girl hell having him around might be good to show ppl that you dont judge on appearance second is you dont have be a uber dj all the time girls will expect you to be human
 

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If you can't get rid of him, change him.

Teach him the ways of the DJ and the two of you will have glorious conquest.

Otherwise, you're just gonna have to go out without him.
 

Warrior74

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walking around being uptight about your appearance is why they think you are in your shell...not because of your roomate. you might be coming off as try hard. relax.
 

Voice

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Warrior74 said:
walking around being uptight about your appearance is why they think you are in your shell...not because of your roomate. you might be coming off as try hard. relax.
No, no they think that because they said it felt like they've never even seen us before. They never seen him because he always stays in the room. They never seen me because I was home for half a week for my grandmas funeral and I have friends on other campuses I hang out with. So I'm really only in my dorm when I am either doing my homework, watching a game, eating or sleeping. All these times I have the door closed because I don't want to be disturbed. Other than that, you would see him and me go to the dining hall or the gym together. Or he even follows me when I try to go out with my other friends.

I'm not trying hard at all, infact I'd rather people not see me in the morning walking across the hall with dried acne cream all over my face or all cranky because I have to wake up for a 755 class.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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