"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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College Relationship Dilemma

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Ok so I'm a sophomore and I've been in this relationship with this girl for about a month and it's going pretty well. We don't see much of each other because of school work, but we always have dinner once a week and hangout on the weekends. She's a great girl, but I kind of feel like being single again. Before meeting her I felt I was well on my to becoming a DJ, but then I met her and we started dating. So now I feel that I'm missing out on just meeting chicks and hooking up while I'm with her. Another factor is that she's a virgin and I was the first guy she ever kissed. I care about her, but I feel like I'm missing out on my college experience. I'm not sure what I should do because I don't want to hurt her.

-Soph
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mvin10 said:
Ok so I'm a sophomore and I've been in this relationship with this girl for about a month and it's going pretty well. We don't see much of each other because of school work, but we always have dinner once a week and hangout on the weekends. She's a great girl, but I kind of feel like being single again. Before meeting her I felt I was well on my to becoming a DJ, but then I met her and we started dating. So now I feel that I'm missing out on just meeting chicks and hooking up while I'm with her. Another factor is that she's a virgin and I was the first guy she ever kissed. I care about her, but I feel like I'm missing out on my college experience. I'm not sure what I should do because I don't want to hurt her.

-Soph

You should really decide if you want to be single or not before you take her virginity, otherwise she'll be whooping off your balls with oneitis.
 

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The point of "becoming a DJ" is to get girls. You've already succeeded in getting a girl. Why would you break up with a girl just to get another girl? If you like her and everything is going well, stay with her.
 

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2.0 said:
The point of "becoming a DJ" is to get girls. You've already succeeded in getting a girl. Why would you break up with a girl just to get another girl? If you like her and everything is going well, stay with her.
Hell no. The point of a DJ is to get MANY girls.

Just because you are dating this one girl bro, dont feel limited. You can still date other women. Just tell her. I only see you once a week and I'm looking for Miss Right, right now I don't know whether that's you or not. I'm dating other women, etc.

She will accept it, if she really likes you. :rolleyes:
 

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Metaphysical said:
Hell no. The point of a DJ is to get MANY girls.

Just because you are dating this one girl bro, dont feel limited. You can still date other women. Just tell her. I only see you once a week and I'm looking for Miss Right, right now I don't know whether that's you or not. I'm dating other women, etc.

She will accept it, if she really likes you. :rolleyes:
Well when I was first dating her, I was involved with other women, but she didn't like that and wanted it to be just the two of us. I agreed to be her bf, but I felt that was just me being nice and not wanting to hurt her even though I didn't want to be tied down. At this point I feel I would have to break up with her and be friends if I do want to be able to see other women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mvin10 said:
Well when I was first dating her, I was involved with other women, but she didn't like that and wanted it to be just the two of us. I agreed to be her bf, but I felt that was just me being nice and not wanting to hurt her even though I didn't want to be tied down. At this point I feel I would have to break up with her and be friends if I do want to be able to see other women.
this has got to be the most poosy boy afc **** ever. This is what happens. Guys start improving themselves...get a girlfriend and give it all up and slide back into AFC land.

She didn't like it? Of course she didn't like it! Women never like it dumbass. their goal is to get you to settle for them, so they don't have to compete and can eventually run your life for you. Good job letting that happen.

How are you going to act when you get an HB10 and she says stop dating other girls? what happens when you have 4 hb10s and they all say stop dating other girls? You get me? You have to decide what you want and go for that. Feelings will get hurt, this is a dirty game. When you play football do you let the other team score so their feelings won't be hurt? Does it hurt your feelings to loose? Well tough tits poosyboy! Get over it. harden the fock up.

LBJF this virgin and put her on the backburner. You might want to come back to her some day. Why are you dating virgins anyway? Nothing DJ about that son. You trying to get married or get laid? You've already supplicated alot to this one and for what? Some kisses on the cheek? LOLOLOLOL.
 

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Warrior74 said:
this has got to be the most poosy boy afc **** ever. This is what happens. Guys start improving themselves...get a girlfriend and give it all up and slide back into AFC land.

She didn't like it? Of course she didn't like it! Women never like it dumbass. their goal is to get you to settle for them, so they don't have to compete and can eventually run your life for you. Good job letting that happen.

How are you going to act when you get an HB10 and she says stop dating other girls? what happens when you have 4 hb10s and they all say stop dating other girls? You get me? You have to decide what you want and go for that. Feelings will get hurt, this is a dirty game. When you play football do you let the other team score so their feelings won't be hurt? Does it hurt your feelings to loose? Well tough tits poosyboy! Get over it. harden the fock up.

LBJF this virgin and put her on the backburner. You might want to come back to her some day. Why are you dating virgins anyway? Nothing DJ about that son. You trying to get married or get laid? You've already supplicated alot to this one and for what? Some kisses on the cheek? LOLOLOLOL.
I see your point and I think your right. I p***ied out and acted like an AFC. So ultimately I've decided just LJBF her. But understand that I really do want to be friends with her because I do care about her. How should I go about this without it blowing up in my face?
 

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I don't know. The damage is already done if you said you'd be her boyfriend but you didn't mean it. Backing out now will be tricky no matter how you play it.
 

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2.0 said:
The point of "becoming a DJ" is to get girls. You've already succeeded in getting a girl
bahahahahhahaha..u need to go back to DJ Kindergarten.

Metaphysical said:
Hell no. The point of a DJ is to get MANY girls.
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Brilliance!!!!! quoted for truth!!

Add to that success in your other objectives, be that career or financial.

Warrior74 said:
Feelings will get hurt, this is a dirty game. When you play football do you let the other team score so their feelings won't be hurt? Does it hurt your feelings to loose? Well tough tits poosyboy! Get over it. harden the fock up.
Straight up..Real talk..you cant even buy this kinda education...read it and believe it.

Darth said:
don't know. The damage is already done if you said you'd be her boyfriend but you didn't mean it. Backing out now will be tricky no matter how you play it.
Again...good good words here for you..


OP: i think you need to be straight with her and tell her.
she may go out and rebel and get laid..alot..but at this point you cant really be worrying about that..that point has long gone when you fell for the trap of her not liking you and other girls..
its ok..you'll learn from the (intelligent)dudes quoted above..

your next step needs to be careful and to let her know your intentions, that way is she will get hurt fast and it wont be a lasting drama for you.
 

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all these young college women are out here giving up the p*ssy every night and you settle for a virgin. smh in disgust!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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At this stage, you can end the relationship pretty easily without hurting her too much. Just be honest with her and tell her that you're not ready to be in an exclusive relationship. Sure, she'll be upset and things will be weird for awhile, but she'll get over it. You have no obligation to date her just because she's someone you care about.

Whatever you do, don't take this girl's virginity. Doing that WILL mess her up. In the future, don't agree to be a girl's boyfriend just because it's what they want. ALL interested girls are going to pressure you to commit. If it's not what you want, don't do it. If a girl refuses to continue seeing you unless you commit, you just have to drop her, otherwise, you're going to have problems down the line.

Enjoy college--don't let relationships get in the way of enjoying some of the most memorable times in your life.
 

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Ok thanx for all the advice guys. So tonight I saw her and we talked about it, I LJBF'd her and we broke up. I don't regret being in this dilemma as it allowed me to learn alot about women and being in relationships. Also to never mess with a virgin. Later
 
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