College Questions

[jogel13]

I started college about a month ago, I feel like I've been doing alright so far, have gotten plenty of numbers but in general I don't know what to do with them.

I feel like in a college setting a "date" would be weird so I've thought about just calling them on a weekend and just seeing what they are doing or what party they are going to but I'm not really sure how to escalate this without seeming needy or desperate.

For example I was having a bunch of people over to my room to watch a movie/hang out on a tuesday night, i texted my target but she was in class. I'm not sure if I should contact her thursday when I go out or if this would be too much and come off as needy.

I meet new girls all the time though friends of friends and things like that, get numbers often too (although it never is hard, feels more like a "friend" thing) but the problem above is getting to me..

the other thing is my social life is pretty much meet up with friends and head out to a party or bar. Even with girls around its always in a decent sized group it feels like thers never a good time to isolate and escalate.

Maybe I'm overthinking it all..

 

[daygameguy]

getting a 1 on 1 date in college may seem against the norm. Usually you can try finding common social events that you can go to, and game from there.

Dating does happen, but you need to be really interesting for a girl to date you one on one.

Just be prepared to deal with interrupts and group dynamics as most people will be rolling in groups.

 

[TizZle]

Are you in dorms/apartment/house?

 

[jogel13]

getting a 1 on 1 date in college may seem against the norm. Usually you can try finding common social events that you can go to, and game from there.

Dating does happen, but you need to be really interesting for a girl to date you one on one.

Just be prepared to deal with interrupts and group dynamics as most people will be rolling in groups.

Yeah thats what I figured, its just kind of annoying.... Would it be too much contact if I called her tonight to go to a bar or something with my social "group"?

And I live in a dorm btw.

 

[DarkShade]

Just call and ask if she wants to hang out with some friends, bring along some of her own and have a big get-together at a local hangout. If she flakes then try a different number till you get what you want.

I'm also in college (small private university, 2000 students) but I'm an adult student (I was driving cars before these kids grew out of Barbie dolls and Pokemon) so getting dates is at most, kind of creepy (creepy old man syndrome) and at the very least, somewhat awkward. Good luck to you.

 

[AF77]

And be sure to dress really damn good when it's you and her female friends, but more man/"Guy like" when around larger groups. Respect from males is what you need in front of her, and "He's SO cute" when around females.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Dates happen Sun-Wed maybe even Tues. Heres how i did it last semester...Go to parties fri and sat, text girls weds/thurs, then hit them up on the weenkend and see whats going on. When you go to parties you dont HAVE TO stay by your friends. That should be the time youre trying to get girls. There are PLENTY of times to isolate...stop thinking so much.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Yeah college is different than if you were gettin a date or somethin at home. Its more about socializing and gettin hang outs/hook ups/ ONSs from there. You make friends wit as many people as you like. Jus make friends, go out and party. You havin fun will be contagious and spread to ladies you know and ladies ur buds know..... Jus go from there. IMO chicks were easy in college.