She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"With success comes confidence."oakraiderz2 said:Yea, i need some help as well. I have opportunities but im too nervous to do anything. I cant JUST DO it, i dont know what it is. I guess peoples opinions matter to much to me, even though i know they shouldnt.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
the 4 pickups are great. especially liked the drunken kamikaze hookup in #3Oxide said:1. Flirted in class, made a little fun of her. She asked me for my number. Called her when was drunk with friends, she drove over, took her to my room "for a massage"
2. Met her at a college bar, interrupted the conversation she was having with some dork, flirted shamelessly, told her i will be back, saw her later, got her number, called her couple of days later, went out for drinks, then to my place to listen to music.
3. She was standing outside of a bar, with the biggest rack I could see with my drunk eyes. I walked up and just kept talking naughty things until she was biting my lips. Then I suggested we get a cab right home..asked her if it was cool to go to her place...
4. Met her at the house party, joked around with her, told her we can go to the bar later, she needed to get her id from her place. We get there and it's locked, so I told her she should just come with me and check out my music collection.
I usually fluctuate between liking picking up girls in class and not liking it.
The way I'd go about it is go sit with next to a cute girl the very first day. People are like sheep - they will sit in the same spot the whole semester (or if there is a sitting chart). Sit next to her, joke a bit, let her warm up. Then go for it - I have been rejected a lot like 2 years ago. I had 3 girls in the same class say no, it was pretty funny. If someone has better class game let's hear it.
House parties - it is all about talking to these girls, and playing push- pull. One of the best in the game told me its all about micro management - push pulling.
Example:
"God, you are such a dork... but I still love you"
"Yeah you are pretty stupid... but I think you are still smarter than most"
In my experience, that works.. but then again I get "wow, ive never met anyone like you before, you are nuts!" pretty often
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
trust me dude, the problem is not that. I think it is all about our own insecurity - take the girls from classes that you had any friction with (without even trying to hook up), anytime you see them in the hallway you'll go "errrrrrrrr"but I don't like to do pick ups in classes because if you get rejected or even if you don't and things go wrong down the line, it just becomes awkward. Large lectures are the exception since you can easily avoid someone.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.