DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
My question to some of the college guys: How is macking different in colllege than it was in H.S.? I know it does give some examples in the DJ bible, but what can you guys say changes in when you get to college?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
gimmeyofonenumba
Master Don Juan
alot changes, iam in a community college not a university, but everyone is much much more busier, and like in HS where you would always see your buddies or something, or the class always had a class clown, a smart dude, the hot b!tchy chick, none of that exists, its really just unspoken of. No one really talks to each other, or forms some circle before class, and when class is going on people arent making jokes are kinda teasing/saying "this sux" or something, everything is just bleh, everyones pretty much doing there own thing, of course you make friends in class but its not all social-proofy like hs was.I think it actually makes Dj'ing easier in some sense
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Tight, that's perfect djing setting. There are no social circles, so no more "cool groups" and stuff.....
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
Yep he's right. None of that BS carries on to college usually.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Well in college its a lot harder to meet girls I think, well at least more awkward. Whereas in High School you have a ton of classes with thet same people over and over and eventually you develop cliques and know of everyone or almost everyone at your school, In college every class is a different mix of people.
I guess it is good in a way that the lack of cliques and stuff means you arent labeled or stereotyped easily, but it also means you arent familiar with most of the people around you.
With some Universities having upwards of 30,000 students, some part time and others full time, and all with flexible schedules (since you pick what time you wanna take classes and even which professor), you often will not see the same people after that particular class is over.
Age is also an issue in college dating. Where in High School all the girls are between 14-19 years old and you know which grade everyone is just about, its easy to pin point age.
In College, its hard to do that. Some people look young when in fact they are older. Other people look older but are younger. Not only do you have to deal with potential girls who have boyfriends but also those who are actually married. Also, there are some single parents in college or girls with boyfriends whom once you get to know better you find out they have kids.
Its also not easy to approach people or find places to approach.
Generally activities like clubs and frats and stuff are good places to meet people, but if you are living at home or arent into crazy parties its hard to meet anyone. Since there is no shared lunch break or recess everyone kind of just goes to class and back to their dorm or homes.
The best bet in that case is to scout in the cafeteria or nearby food places for anyone who is sitting alone studying or eating between classes. Besides campus activities like clubs (such as political for example) and frats, cafeterias are your best bet.
Another semi-decent way to meet girls is in hallways if they look lost or you are lost and you ask for directions or offer to help with directions.
The situation in classrooms is less friendly than in high school. Generally talking isnt permitted during lectures, and can often get you booted from class if you disturb the professor. Also most people arent willing to goof off or be chatty because everyone is paying for college and everyone needs their grade.
That's probably the most welcome change from High School: no more jerk goof offs who disrupt the class.
But that also means theres less chances to meet people. Group projects are always nice. The thing that seemed to work for me the most is coming to class early and asking the other students about the class material or joke around with them, even goof off. This only works if you are like 20 or so minutes early and the professor isnt there yet and some people are starting to trickle in.
Once you do that before class, during class it will be easier to whisper something or after class catch up with someone and talk to them. It really breaks the ice to have prior contact in this way or for them to at least know you are open and talkative before hand.
There are problably more things. I'll add them as I think of them!
I guess it is good in a way that the lack of cliques and stuff means you arent labeled or stereotyped easily, but it also means you arent familiar with most of the people around you.
With some Universities having upwards of 30,000 students, some part time and others full time, and all with flexible schedules (since you pick what time you wanna take classes and even which professor), you often will not see the same people after that particular class is over.
Age is also an issue in college dating. Where in High School all the girls are between 14-19 years old and you know which grade everyone is just about, its easy to pin point age.
In College, its hard to do that. Some people look young when in fact they are older. Other people look older but are younger. Not only do you have to deal with potential girls who have boyfriends but also those who are actually married. Also, there are some single parents in college or girls with boyfriends whom once you get to know better you find out they have kids.
Its also not easy to approach people or find places to approach.
Generally activities like clubs and frats and stuff are good places to meet people, but if you are living at home or arent into crazy parties its hard to meet anyone. Since there is no shared lunch break or recess everyone kind of just goes to class and back to their dorm or homes.
The best bet in that case is to scout in the cafeteria or nearby food places for anyone who is sitting alone studying or eating between classes. Besides campus activities like clubs (such as political for example) and frats, cafeterias are your best bet.
Another semi-decent way to meet girls is in hallways if they look lost or you are lost and you ask for directions or offer to help with directions.
The situation in classrooms is less friendly than in high school. Generally talking isnt permitted during lectures, and can often get you booted from class if you disturb the professor. Also most people arent willing to goof off or be chatty because everyone is paying for college and everyone needs their grade.
That's probably the most welcome change from High School: no more jerk goof offs who disrupt the class.
But that also means theres less chances to meet people. Group projects are always nice. The thing that seemed to work for me the most is coming to class early and asking the other students about the class material or joke around with them, even goof off. This only works if you are like 20 or so minutes early and the professor isnt there yet and some people are starting to trickle in.
Once you do that before class, during class it will be easier to whisper something or after class catch up with someone and talk to them. It really breaks the ice to have prior contact in this way or for them to at least know you are open and talkative before hand.
There are problably more things. I'll add them as I think of them!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
Class is not the place where you usually meet chics. I repeat usually. There are some exceptions though. The biggest plus about college is there are alot more girls than guys. College is so awesome I think i want to stay forever. The biggest challenge when u get to college is meeting people. You have to get involved in somethin so you can meet people especially girls. I play foot ball so i didnt have a real hard time doin that.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
I'm joe dirt.....
I now view college as a very scary place
I now view college as a very scary place
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
It can be a scary place if you are the shy quiet type, I guess.
I am a loud person, so I will walk into Accounting class for example as a few people are there already but not the prof on a Quiz day (including some HBs) and say something like "We're having a quiz today!!! OMG arent you guys excited?! I hope we get some calculus questions, you know, just as a change of pace. Oh and I hope they toss in some vocab words. 'Accounts Recievable'. hehehe So *turning to an HB* whats your favorite vocabulary word?"
Stuff like that usually makes people laugh and it breaks the ice. Once you can do stuff like that comfortably, you'll be in.
Just remember to relax and enjoy yourself. Many of the people you will only occasionaly see again and most won't know your name.
I am a loud person, so I will walk into Accounting class for example as a few people are there already but not the prof on a Quiz day (including some HBs) and say something like "We're having a quiz today!!! OMG arent you guys excited?! I hope we get some calculus questions, you know, just as a change of pace. Oh and I hope they toss in some vocab words. 'Accounts Recievable'. hehehe So *turning to an HB* whats your favorite vocabulary word?"
Stuff like that usually makes people laugh and it breaks the ice. Once you can do stuff like that comfortably, you'll be in.
Just remember to relax and enjoy yourself. Many of the people you will only occasionaly see again and most won't know your name.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
I would bet alot of money joe dirt dosent have alot of friends and definitely not a girlfriend.
If your outgoing and like to meet people youll do fine. You had better be into partying cuz thats what college is about. Crazy drunken parties. Thats it baby. Everybody cuts loose sometimes especially at college, which means plenty of girls to go home with.
If your outgoing and like to meet people youll do fine. You had better be into partying cuz thats what college is about. Crazy drunken parties. Thats it baby. Everybody cuts loose sometimes especially at college, which means plenty of girls to go home with.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
For your information I have plenty of friends and I am seeing a few girls. Nope, no girlfriend, just 1 girl I've been screwing and another I've been going out to eat with.
There is more to social life than college parties. I am involved in a lot of things in business, politics, and school including school activities.
Some people like getting drunk, puking all over, and fvucking some hor, but I am not into that. Not every college has a lot of parties either, I go to a University with no dorms (Commuter School) so opportunities for parties are very very few to begin with.
There is more to social life than college parties. I am involved in a lot of things in business, politics, and school including school activities.
Some people like getting drunk, puking all over, and fvucking some hor, but I am not into that. Not every college has a lot of parties either, I go to a University with no dorms (Commuter School) so opportunities for parties are very very few to begin with.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
h2o
Banned
college is awesome.
as opposed to highschool (or atleast the way i viewed highschool), college is probably one of the best experiences of your life.
there are still "social circles" and groups, but it is a lot easier to meet almost anyone...
in otherwords, if you were introverted in highschool, don't expect college to be any different. you have to change yourself first, on the inside
become a social, cool, outgoing, laidback sort of person, and it won't matter what the environment...you'll do fine almost anywhere
and the reason i mentioned above that highschool wasn't that great for me is because i was somewhat introverted back then
but once you change yourself, it really won't matter what the environment is
although, like i also mentioned, college is probably one of the best places to "mack" as you stated...especially try to get to know freshman girls
they just moved away from their parents, they want to rebel, experiment, try new things...they're easier to mess around with
as opposed to highschool (or atleast the way i viewed highschool), college is probably one of the best experiences of your life.
there are still "social circles" and groups, but it is a lot easier to meet almost anyone...
in otherwords, if you were introverted in highschool, don't expect college to be any different. you have to change yourself first, on the inside
become a social, cool, outgoing, laidback sort of person, and it won't matter what the environment...you'll do fine almost anywhere
and the reason i mentioned above that highschool wasn't that great for me is because i was somewhat introverted back then
but once you change yourself, it really won't matter what the environment is
although, like i also mentioned, college is probably one of the best places to "mack" as you stated...especially try to get to know freshman girls
they just moved away from their parents, they want to rebel, experiment, try new things...they're easier to mess around with
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Yep I agree totally with that.
Its more "real world" than high school which is more sheltered and has its own internal rules and stuff. In college and the real world, anything goes.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Not really. I haven't experienced any hostility from anyone yet for acting like an idiot (while having a big smile on my face). I got some laughs and some rolled eyes but no threats or nothing.
The only hostility I ever recieved was from liberals on campus because I don't share their political views. They especially didn't like the Affirmative Action bakesale I helped organize...
The only hostility I ever recieved was from liberals on campus because I don't share their political views. They especially didn't like the Affirmative Action bakesale I helped organize...
What's all this making college sound scary?
Freshman year - everybody shows up the first week with their parents. They're scared because they don't know anybody, and they think that college is going to be some hostile place defined by hard work and isolation without their friends.
And then the parents all leave, and the frenzy begins. You'll never find an easier time to meet people, hot girls, anyone, than your first college semester. If you're not living in the dorms, go there anyway and just introduce yourself as the guy who knows everyone and where all the parties are. By the end of the day, you will be telling the truth because you will have 100 new phone numbers, if you want to. Meet the people likely to throw parties, and let them know proudly that you have the phone number of every hot girl from here to timbuktu, and that you're the man to call to combat the dreaded sausage fest. You can do this all over campus, in all of your classes, in the cafeteria, at the local hangout. Just let everyone know you as the guy who knows everyone. Never again will you have such an oppurtunity.
You get to start all over here. Nobody knows who you were in high school. Whoever they see now is who they'll believe you are. Go into full dJ mode - confident, cool, friendly, and totally bold. That's how everyone will remember you.
Remember in high school, how you would walk down the halls and know everyone? Forget about that. You don't ever have to go another day without meeting another new people. People are friendly - campus is a great place to meet girls. They're all over the place, and they're sexually active and looking for a piece. They're in your classes. Sit next to them. They'll be outside smoking before class. Flirt with them. Start study groups. Join clubs. Party hard. Go to events. Host events. Play intramural sports. Never in your life will you find an easier place to meet girls. They're absolutely disposable here. If one's not good enough, there are ten more literally around the corner. If your social skills are on-par, there's no way you can dislike college.
Did you ever go to summer camp? It's kind of like that, except there are no adults, no speeches about Jesus, it lasts a whole year and the girls actually put out. Have fun - it's a blast.
Freshman year - everybody shows up the first week with their parents. They're scared because they don't know anybody, and they think that college is going to be some hostile place defined by hard work and isolation without their friends.
And then the parents all leave, and the frenzy begins. You'll never find an easier time to meet people, hot girls, anyone, than your first college semester. If you're not living in the dorms, go there anyway and just introduce yourself as the guy who knows everyone and where all the parties are. By the end of the day, you will be telling the truth because you will have 100 new phone numbers, if you want to. Meet the people likely to throw parties, and let them know proudly that you have the phone number of every hot girl from here to timbuktu, and that you're the man to call to combat the dreaded sausage fest. You can do this all over campus, in all of your classes, in the cafeteria, at the local hangout. Just let everyone know you as the guy who knows everyone. Never again will you have such an oppurtunity.
You get to start all over here. Nobody knows who you were in high school. Whoever they see now is who they'll believe you are. Go into full dJ mode - confident, cool, friendly, and totally bold. That's how everyone will remember you.
Remember in high school, how you would walk down the halls and know everyone? Forget about that. You don't ever have to go another day without meeting another new people. People are friendly - campus is a great place to meet girls. They're all over the place, and they're sexually active and looking for a piece. They're in your classes. Sit next to them. They'll be outside smoking before class. Flirt with them. Start study groups. Join clubs. Party hard. Go to events. Host events. Play intramural sports. Never in your life will you find an easier place to meet girls. They're absolutely disposable here. If one's not good enough, there are ten more literally around the corner. If your social skills are on-par, there's no way you can dislike college.
Did you ever go to summer camp? It's kind of like that, except there are no adults, no speeches about Jesus, it lasts a whole year and the girls actually put out. Have fun - it's a blast.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
h2o
Banned
though i never really had trouble with going to parties...that's a really neat idea for expanding your social circle.
white_hype
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College is the ****ing best (I go to the university of texas though).
Lets put it this way:
in high school I hooked up with 3-4 girls TOTAL.... I went to summer school at UT before fall classes and hooked up with 13 girls in that summer alone (all hb7+'s only 1-2 hb6).
and this was BEFORE I found sosuave or another other pu site (but i was always pretty decent with girls)
Lets put it this way:
in high school I hooked up with 3-4 girls TOTAL.... I went to summer school at UT before fall classes and hooked up with 13 girls in that summer alone (all hb7+'s only 1-2 hb6).
and this was BEFORE I found sosuave or another other pu site (but i was always pretty decent with girls)
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
By hook up with 13 do you mean you were able to go out with her somewhere or you mean you got action from all of them? And what happened to all of them????
Because what I noticed is its easy to get people to go out for coffee or lunch and have it not mean nothing. Once I asked out a girl if she wanted to go for lunch with me and during our lunch I found out she was in a relationship and had a kid.
But thats another difference between HS and College. In HS when you "ask someone out" you are assumed to be bf/gf where as in college going out with someone doesn't mean much and many girls even hot ones who are taken and would never sleep with you won't hestitate in hanging out with you for fun if they have nothing better to do.
Because what I noticed is its easy to get people to go out for coffee or lunch and have it not mean nothing. Once I asked out a girl if she wanted to go for lunch with me and during our lunch I found out she was in a relationship and had a kid.
But thats another difference between HS and College. In HS when you "ask someone out" you are assumed to be bf/gf where as in college going out with someone doesn't mean much and many girls even hot ones who are taken and would never sleep with you won't hestitate in hanging out with you for fun if they have nothing better to do.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
My first years of college sucked mostly. A few good experiences but mostly sucky. I'm really shy and don't meet a lot of people often so I don't have any friends or girls or invites to parties. It sucked. Going to try improve when I return in the fall as a junior.
white_hype
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i didnt go on a single fvcking date that summer, i didnt want nor needed too... for one, i was way too busy with school and working out... I basically just went to class, worked out, studied a little, then went out and partied... I went out 4-5 times per week (started in june ended in august). I went out with girls that I made as friends (went to movies/shopping/studying) in summer school which probably helped with social proof (they were hb7.5 and hb8 and cool as ****... didnt hook up with them b/c 2 of my "new" friends were with them). Me and like 8 other people basicaly ran that summer session though which helped A LOT. Like everyone would wait in the dorm lobby to ask us where the parties were and they would follow us to them... its funny, one time like 10 of us went out to a party and thought it was lame and that there was a better one down the street so we left... and about 20 other people followed us there, it was ****ing hilarious
and when i say hook up, i mean at the VERY least a hand job. You need to keep in mind 95% of these girls I met were from parties and they were drinking (I think).
Think about it... one of the best schools in the country (UT), parties ALL THE TIME (im talking huge, badass parties, where the beer rarely runs out and if it does theres always a late night party. this happens b/c frats rush freshman in the summer a lot.), people are finally out of their homes, away from parents/responsibility, and everyone wants to drink and get crazy
perfect setup
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.