"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm slowly picking my way through the bible here but it's taking me some time because I'm pretty busy with school and what not so I'm wondering if I could get some advice on this situation.

There is this girl that I see in one of my classes that looks like a girl I use to talk to. She's cute so I wanna go talk to her. If she sat alone, then it would be no problem BUT she always sits w/ 2 or 3 other chicks and is usually in the middle! It's in an auditorium classroom too. She leaves w/ them at the end of class and they go in the opposite direction than I do.

She gets to class before me and the few times she has come in later she comes in w/ the group. So, what are some tips to go up and be able to just focus in on her? like get her #? or get her so one day she'll come sit by me to talk instead? Just wonder what you do b/c the friends will also be there and I have no interest in them. It takes me some work to get myself to approach single chicks much less a group of them (yep, Still building up confidence). Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When U overcome your fear and U could approach her in front of her friends, she will see your confidence other girls too.

Or U could say: Excuse me laidies, can I borrow her for sec...you go
 
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Mr Fortress,

That's a pretty bold move. He is not ready for that! I wouldn't do that, and I am the DJ of DJ's!:)


Bigworm,

This is tough! Find out where her locker is and accidently be there when the bell rings and bump into her without knocking her down!
 
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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Bigworm,

This is tough! Find out where her locker is and accidently be there when the bell rings and bump into her without knocking her down!
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Thanks for the help but I'm in college. No lockers.
 
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If there are tests and you leave when you're done try to leave at the same time. Or you could try talking to all of them and then be able to single her out later on but that would be kind of hard, that's what I would do though. Has she made any eye contact with you? If she's in the group oblivious to other guys trying to advance on her maybe she's just not interested in other guys right now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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After a test say:

"How'd you ladies do?"

If you did bad, or thought it was hard say:

"Man, that test was tough, what do you girls think?"

Try to talk with them about something involving the class. Ask them for help, ask them how they like the class, ask them anything that has to do with the class... besides offering assitance. The options are endless, but remember... ask THEM.
 
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Some good tips for future reference. Hate to say the only thing left is the final. This is a big class too. Think about 300 peeps.

The reason I noticed her is b/c she looks like a girl I use to talk to... I'm sure I gave her a really funny look the first day I saw her (guess a week ago). She was right outside the door as we were walking out and I saw her... freaked me about b/c I thought she was the other chick. Made my heart skip a beat... Let's just say the chick she somewhat looks like I don't want anything to do with.
 
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hey snake, for this situation i'd suggest you work backwards, starting with her friends. i am sure that since you have no interest in them, its not so hard to start a little convo. with them.
 
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