College game?

[Scorrere]

Are there any specific tips for getting girls in college? I go out every friday and saturday to parties, but nothing seems to have happened even though college is supposed to be "easy." I know I gotta put in the effort, but it just seems kind of hard to do anything when there's music blasting in your ears and you're packed in like sardines in a frat house basement. I have to yell to my friends in order to have a conversation. I have absolutely no trouble talking to girls if I get introduced or they approach me and can make small talk very easily. I'll admit I've never really approached a total stranger purposely, I might make some quick small talk with people if we're waiting in line for beer or something (guys or girls) but never just walked up to someone. I'll admit I've never kissed, never been on a date (unless you count the "friends" date that was prom), and obviously never been laid. So what sort of tips are there for college game? I drink a little but I'm a total lightweight, I'm short and never drank till college. I'm starting to find a happy medium where I'm buzzed but not really drunk and it feels good.

Also, I don't really want to be taking advantage of a really drunk girl, just doesn't sit well with me. I have gotten over a few things since HS, no more oneitis which I used to have bad and I feel I've got some ****y/funny down pretty well so that it comes naturally. I make people laugh fairly often but I never seem to be able to take control of a group. In general, I am very happy, I'm loving college and meeting new people (some of whom I think I'll be friends with for a long time) and while the classes are hard, I've been handling it well. I guess you could say I'm still an AFC, but I am willing to try things out now, and I have come so far from what I was my freshman year of HS (completely anti-social nerd who just did hwk and played video games). I still need to work on my physical appearance, but that will take time and I AM working on it, just gotta wait for the hard work to yield results. Still, I will gladly accept any advice fellow college or alumns have for getting chicks, mostly at parties.

 

[slcKing]

Yea i know what u mean im in college an i need the same advice. Anyone?

 

[KSUgamer]

I've been in college for three years now and party pretty much every night every weekend. I usually end up with a girl by the end of the night too. So here's a few guidelines for a person new to the partying scene.

1. Drink beer!! Beer is good for many reasons...Its a manly drink (you will never be called a ***** for drinking it), its harder to get drunk off of than mixed drinks, its always around at parties and its somewhat cheap. Its also very hard to get a hangover in the morning.

2. Play drinking games. This shows girls you like to have fun, and it also gives you opportunities to meet them in a non-threatening way. If you don't know how to play the game, this gives an opportunity for you to ask them to teach you. Be competitive when you're playing, it makes it more fun and gives you more of a dominant appeal.

3. Get drunk, but don't overdo it. Its socially acceptable to be drunk at parties, and when I do at least I go with a who gives a sh*t attitude. This makes you more likely to go introduce yourself to a girl. Getting drunk is fun and part of college...you'll most likely have stories to tell the next day to your friends afterwards too.

4. The best way to open a girl in a party is: "Hey! What's your name?"...that is all you have to do. Show interest in what she has to say and do it in a happy, positive and somewhat drunk way. Follow that line with "what's your major?" classes your taking...sports...something along those lines.

5. Find a couch, sit the girl down and try to get more in depth with her...usually there's other people around making out and what not around these areas so this might give u and her ideas.

6. Roam around. If its a big party, use it to your advantage. Meet as many people as you can. As for the sardines factor you were talking about, use it to your advantage...touch the girls to let them know you're there and you need to get through. Of course be polite and say "excuse me" to them and give them a big smile. Then come back later and ask them their name.

7. Get some air. Tell a girl that its too hot and loud in the house and you'd like to go outside and talk with her. This is a good way to isolate her and make your moves. If she smokes...use that excuse and light one up with her.

8. Dance. If there's dancing going on at the party join in. If you think you're not good at dancing, you're not drunk enough. College partying is all about having fun. The fun you have in college is along the lines of getting drunk and doing ridiculous things.

Hope this helps, my best advice to you guys is make friends (guys or girls) at these parties. They will in turn invite you to more and also introduce you to more people, then soon you will be the life of the party that all the girls want to be with.

 

[Scorrere]

I've been in college for three years now and party pretty much every night every weekend. I usually end up with a girl by the end of the night too. So here's a few guidelines for a person new to the partying scene.

1. Drink beer!! Beer is good for many reasons...Its a manly drink (you will never be called a ***** for drinking it), its harder to get drunk off of than mixed drinks, its always around at parties and its somewhat cheap. Its also very hard to get a hangover in the morning.

2. Play drinking games. This shows girls you like to have fun, and it also gives you opportunities to meet them in a non-threatening way. If you don't know how to play the game, this gives an opportunity for you to ask them to teach you. Be competitive when you're playing, it makes it more fun and gives you more of a dominant appeal.

3. Get drunk, but don't overdo it. Its socially acceptable to be drunk at parties, and when I do at least I go with a who gives a sh*t attitude. This makes you more likely to go introduce yourself to a girl. Getting drunk is fun and part of college...you'll most likely have stories to tell the next day to your friends afterwards too.

4. The best way to open a girl in a party is: "Hey! What's your name?"...that is all you have to do. Show interest in what she has to say and do it in a happy, positive and somewhat drunk way. Follow that line with "what's your major?" classes your taking...sports...something along those lines.

5. Find a couch, sit the girl down and try to get more in depth with her...usually there's other people around making out and what not around these areas so this might give u and her ideas.

6. Roam around. If its a big party, use it to your advantage. Meet as many people as you can. As for the sardines factor you were talking about, use it to your advantage...touch the girls to let them know you're there and you need to get through. Of course be polite and say "excuse me" to them and give them a big smile. Then come back later and ask them their name.

7. Get some air. Tell a girl that its too hot and loud in the house and you'd like to go outside and talk with her. This is a good way to isolate her and make your moves. If she smokes...use that excuse and light one up with her.

8. Dance. If there's dancing going on at the party join in. If you think you're not good at dancing, you're not drunk enough. College partying is all about having fun. The fun you have in college is along the lines of getting drunk and doing ridiculous things.

Hope this helps, my best advice to you guys is make friends (guys or girls) at these parties. They will in turn invite you to more and also introduce you to more people, then soon you will be the life of the party that all the girls want to be with.

I'm doing a few of these, except the actual approaching girls part. I like beer so much more than hard liquor and I usually don't pregame with my friends much. I try to play drinking games but it's damn hard to get in on a game. Me and a friend tried to get in on some pong last night and we were on a "list" and kept checking back and never got to play. It's usually like this. Since I'm a new drinker, I'm just starting to find my "happy medium" where I'm a little more than buzzed but still not that bad. The only problem I have with just going up to a girl and talking to her is it's so damn LOUD at these parties. You literally have to scream at the person next to you so they can hear you. I guess I can just try approaching someone and yell questions at them. I always try to dance if there's a dancefloor going, I actually love dancing even if sober.

I'll try your other suggestions out, thanks for the advice.

 

[KSUgamer]

Well it sounds like you got the jist of it. You're right about the happy medium thing, getting too drunk doesn't help at all. Use the noise problem to your advantage though, get up really close to the girl...like you're whispering something in her ear, but of course talk normally to loud still. Use talking close to her to casually touch her too...(possibly keeping your balance because of the other people running into you). This will seem very innocent to her at first (since you're only doing this to communicate and keep your balance) but it still gives you an "in" for more touching later on.

If you're not near her (a few people in between you) use eye contact and a big smile or some kind of motion to get her over to where you are.

 

[pua1989]

there are more games than just pong. flip cup is fun and competitive. quarters is cool. just something to get going. ****, if you ahve to bring your own cups do it.

 

[Scorrere]

there are more games than just pong. flip cup is fun and competitive. quarters is cool. just something to get going. ****, if you ahve to bring your own cups do it.

Problem is there is literally no room to do this at most of the places we go to. There are usually a few tables the host set up and those are always full and usually with pong. The rest is just open space except for the bar. Most of the parties are at frats and they get PACKED.

If anyone else has more college tips, please share them.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Just get drunk and approach girls. Be energetic and have fun with it. Its really that simple. As long as youre interesting and have something to say that will get/keep their attention youll be good.

 

[AaronDan]

Hey guys, I just graduated from college and thought my experience might be helpful. My college was very small, only 2000 students in a tiny town in the northeast, so I don’t know what it is like to go to a larger school but I’m assuming the same principles will apply. I went from being a zero success virgin over my first three years to very satisfied during my senior year.

Here is what worked for me:
1) Take full advantage of social circles by being as efficient as possible meeting people during the first 2 months but don’t be afraid to cold approach throughout the year.
3) Don’t hesitate if you see someone you want to talk to.
4) Maintain sexual tension with girls you might want to hook up with. Asexual friends get put in the dreaded friend zone. Friends with occasional sexual tension get put in the potential hook up zone.
5) Don’t kiss and tell.
6) Be honest about your intentions.

In my experience, social circles are almost everything at college if you want to hook up with quality girls. Cold approaches do work but there was a mentality, at least at my school, to be wary of people before seeing what group they rolled with. Social proof meant a lot.

During the first little while everyone is easy to open and willing to meet new people. I found that at about the 2 month mark social circles are pretty well established and people have a set group of friends. You can break into social circles but I advise taking advantage of the first few months to meet and befriend as many people as possible. This way, once social groups are established you will have connections in many of them and things will be a lot easier for you.

During those first couple months take advantage of dining halls. Even if you are with a group of friends, sit with some new people, introduce yourself and your friends and start a conversation. Other than at parties, my favorite place to cold approach all year was the dining halls and cafes.

Don’t hesitate if you see someone you want to meet. On college campuses, as well as everywhere else, people are busy and move from one place to the next fairly quickly. If you see an opportunity to start a conversation, do it immediately. I’m speaking from experience having missed many opportunities by not acting right away.

Like I said, social circles make things a lot easier and will improve your successes. I hooked up with 3 of my close friends within my main social circle last year so don’t be too afraid of making friends with girls. Just make sure you keep the tension up a little if you think you might want to hook up with them at some point. If you are a friend with a sexual vibe then the friend zone doesn’t matter. If you are a friend with an asexual vibe then it is much more difficult to make it sexual when you want to.

I found that by dancing sexy with my girl friends when we were out at a bar or even at house parties, it definitely kept the tension there. Calling something about them sexy every now and then also works. My all time favorite way to keep tension up with my friends was hand and back massages. People are always down for a back massage and I found it pretty easy to convey sexuality through my touch even if we were having a platonic conversation while the massage was going on. It was also very discrete, since everyone else around thought it was just a friendly massage while the girl I was giving it to could tell that it was more. I suggest learning massage and a few ways to convey sexuality through your dancing. What worked for me while dancing were subtle breaths on her ear, rubbing your cheek against hers so that the corners of your mouths just barely touch but you aren’t actually kissing, and my all time favorite once things are starting to get a little sexy was to dance as close to each other as possible without actually touching, then push her away and pull her close again after a few seconds.

If you are hooking up within your social circle, don’t kiss and tell, she will take care of that for you if she wants to. You can really ruin your friend’s trust if they find out you told your other friends about what the two of you did together and that will greatly reduce your chances of hooking up with any of the other girls in that social circle. Plus, I found it really fun to have dirty little secrets with my close girl friends.

Last but probably most importantly, make sure you are honest about your intentions assuming you want to see this girl again and have her respect you. I had always been too much of a ***** to be honest with girls and it got me no play. I found that once a sexual vibe was established, I could convey exactly what I was looking for the relationship to be like. There are ways to convey your intentions without being absolutely explicit. There are ways to say, “We are just going to have sex tonight but I don’t want to be your boyfriend” without saying those exact words. When I was honest, I was never turned down and found that girls wanted **** buddy relationships too. By being honest I was able to maintain very close friendships with most of the girls I hooked up with even after we stopped having sex.

Good luck and savor every moment of college if you are there right now.