College dating life vs Post College dating life

[CornbreadFed]

I decided to focus on partying in college over grades and that resulted in me having a shvtty paying job in a Bum frick Egypt Midwestern town. I missed the opportunity to living in one of those young people MAA apartments with the pool parties and living in a downtown urban city center during the prime of my twenties. I am nearing 30 and I now have the money to live in one of these places, but lack the energy, time, and motivation to party like I did in my early and mid twenties. My friends that experienced this seemed to have a blast and benefited from a lot of recent college grad social groups as well.

Based off my experience, I find women to be much easier to get post college than in college. Yes, the logistics and closing on a girl were easier in college, but I wasn't pulling the top tier girls due to my social status and inexperience with women. Furthermore, I don’t find casual sex/one night stands fulfilling and just glorified masturbation in essence. Last, I just found going out post college to be more fun despite being in a fraternity.

Pros to college:

Best logistics you will ever get in your life regarding women
The best four years of your life saying came from somewhere I guess
There are a lot of opportunities in college despite the disadvantage. A lot of guys do meet their future wives or get in to fulfilling social groups in college

In addition, here’s another topic highlighting the reality on college campuses

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

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[Solomon]

OP is on point post college is all about logistics and social circle
I've been saying it a lot on the forum the last 2 years cause I see what social circle has done for me
To many guys wasting time on swipe apps
To many guys wasting time at clubs chasing sloppy drunk *****z

Focus on living in a bomb penthouse/cond/apartment poool parties are exclusive
Hot chicks and you're alreadygot social proof because to live in those places you can't be broke
bbq's, beer pong,, house parties in the summer
An old friend of mine use to live in apartment right next to an NBA player
Sometimes he would party with them
Imgaine the access top tier guys have average guys can only dream off

Logitics and social circle can give guys a huge boost

 

[SW15]

The college sex life thread that @Jesse Pinkman started and @CornbreadFed linked in the first post is an amazing thread.

I think most college students end up a bit disappointed in their college sex life experiences. The average college man is not having sex with enough women to live up to the hype of college. Many college men also struggle to get girlfriends while in college despite the abundance of unmarried, childless females on campus. Even though almost all women on campus are unmarried, women manage to easily pair off and get boyfriends in college.

The people who played the mating game best in college fell into 2-3 groups, all involving LTRs, which I mention on the first page of the college sex life thread. LTRs seem to be the ticket for most men into regular sex at most phases of life. That's why a lot of people have them and stay in them, even beyond their useful life (think long term sexless marriages).

College gives a man amazing access to a pool of unmarried and childless women that he can't find in the post-college world. He's not going to encounter as many women in his workplace as he does in his college classes. In college, you can hit on women in your classes. In the workplace, there are serious consequences for hitting on women in the the workplace. That's an access issue for a lot of men.

A college student has less responsibility than a working professional, which affects a lot of aspects of dating. The looming inevitability of work the next day puts a damper on a Tuesday night at 8 PM first date, which simply doesn't happen when 2 college students have a first date on Tuesday night at 8 PM. It's also easier to go out late into the night on Tuesday or Wednesday nights while in college as compared to the working world. If a college students does hardcore night game late on a Wednesday night/early Thursday morning and it affects his performance in a Tuesday-Thursday class, the consequences of that are not severe. If a man messes up at work on a Thursday after partying hard on a Wednesday, he might get fired and not be able to pay his bills. That's a bigger consequence than failing a Tuesday-Thursday college class.

I do think post-college logistics are a bit trickier than college logistics. A lot depends upon where a man lives in the first 5-10 years after college graduation and how much of his college social circle he can retain into adulthood. The right apartment complex in the right city can be a big boost to post-college dating life, but no man should rely upon his apartment complex for his socialization and dating options. Besides talking to people around an apartment community, a man might need to join a co-ed sports league, go to bars, or even do daygame sessions. There's a lot of variability in post college logistics. Also, it's easier to do a daygame session on a college campus as a college student than do a random daygame session at a city park or on a city walking path. The extracurricular clubs on a college campus are a big advantage over the co-ed sports leagues for post-college people in big cities. The college gyms and their fitness classes are probably similar but younger to the gyms/fitness classes of post-college people.