I have been friendly to chicks at college in general, especially those that live on my floor in my dorm. The vast majority will not even say "hi" to me if I don't do so initially. I have had some decent conversations with them, of course, with me initiating. Are college chicks simply unfriendly or is this a problem endemic associated with the New York area? They weren't nearly this cold in South Jersey.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
College chicks and friendship for social proof, networking
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's possible that it's the chicks your dealing with but I think you have a chance to use some C&F. Just be blatent. Something along the lines of "it wouldn't kill you to say hi." or "so do we just not say Hi on this floor or what, whats the deal?" Don't be afraid to just point out the fact that they are ignoring you b/c truthfully they shouldn't. Besides, I beleive they feel akward as well and they shouldn't so help them with that 
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.Those are good suggestions. Thanks.
I didn't start being friendly with people on my floor until two months ago. Do they think I am doing this to get into their pants? The guys on the floor are far friendlier.
Also, some of them always look at me when they see me but they don't say anything. Could they be attracted to me and hence nervous or are they looking to see if I am checking them out because they assume I am attracted to them?
I didn't start being friendly with people on my floor until two months ago. Do they think I am doing this to get into their pants? The guys on the floor are far friendlier.
Also, some of them always look at me when they see me but they don't say anything. Could they be attracted to me and hence nervous or are they looking to see if I am checking them out because they assume I am attracted to them?
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
I would try to make friends with more of the guys there. I notice it's more fun hanging out with chicks in the dorm when there's a few guys and girls together.
Also, where in South Jersey you from?
Also, where in South Jersey you from?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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People in college are ****ing weird,son.
I don't understand half the people here. It's like they want you to kiss there ass just cuz they got money or something.
One day they wanna follow you around like a puppy the next they act like they don't know you.
I just ignore these faggots. The women are ok,but most of these wb's are ****ing weirdo's I don't even look at them.
P.S. Yeah women from NY are cold.
I got a similar problem. Women seem more interested in me when I am cold and unfriendly but when I start being nice to them they turn all weird like they think they are better then me. Some women are really cool and being friends is not problem but the more attractive ones act stupid.
I have to chose between being a cold person and being lonely and being friendly and not getting respected. I chose the former.
I have to chose between being a cold person and being lonely and being friendly and not getting respected. I chose the former.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I have been trying to expand my social circle in general and hopefully making more male friends will lead to more female contacts.
I am from Vineland but going to college in the NYC area. Where are you from?
Why is that?
What do you guys think about their perception of me? Would they generally think I am suddenly friendly or merely acting friendly for sex?