College Bros: Is Dating on Easy Mode?

[jjlawrence]

I just read an article which claimed that the female to male ratio on college campuses now is 60:40. That's a huge disparity. For those guys in college, I have to imagine this is creating a huge imbalance in the dating market, obviously favoring men. This has to be a favorable situation, right?

There's a possibility that the feminist propaganda acts as a counter balance, but numbers don't lie. I can't see how this huge disparity doesn't give men an advantage.

I'm a decade out of college so don't have much first hand experience recently.

 

[zekko]

There's a possibility that the feminist propaganda acts as a counter balance, but numbers don't lie. I can't see how this huge disparity doesn't give men an advantage.

There's also the LGBTQ push. Females seem to buy into this a lot more than men do. I'm guessing there are a lot of women exploring their lesbian side.

But I have to agree that if a guy is good with girls at all, I can't imagine him not having some successes in that rich of an environment.

 

[Zimbabwe]

It depends on what you study, nursing and Arts tends to be majority women but if you're in IT or engineering it would be a sausage fest.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

It’s easy mode for the top 1% of men for sure. If you’re not and you don’t have a gf then good luck lol.

 

[SW15]

I finished my graduate degree 13 years ago and my undergraduate 16 years ago. When I started undergrad 20 years ago, I recall my school had a 52% female/48% male biological sex breakdown. That didn't make much of a difference.

My hypothesis is that college campuses are not the dating nirvana that a surface level view of the ratios would indicate. With that said, it is likely better for men that a typical major city, post-college 20s-30s environment.

There's no indication that college campuses are creating extended relationships that last. Most undergrads of typical age of either sex will see their college era relationships dissipate by 25-30. 25-30 is also being generous on the timeline.

For decades, as more people went to college, more people formed extended romantic relationships from random interactions on campus with the man approaching the woman. Around 2000, as the Millennials were first getting to college, formation of couples in college diminished. I've tracked a lot of my contacts from my college years over time on social media. Almost no one today from that cohort is with their college era partner. This also coincides with the Millennials having poor social skills and the rise of internet technology, which worsened the social skills of Millennials. Now that Gen Z is the overwhelming majority of the undergrad population and likely a majority in graduate school, I don't know if this will change.

Even if there's a 60/40 female/male split, a lot of men will simply be ignored. A lot of the STEM guys will be invisible to a lot of women. Those guys won't be in women's classes. Even if they participate in extracurriculars where women are (not a safe assumption), they likely don't have the social skills to seduce. Additionally, if there are extra females on campus, campus is not a self-contained unit. Many of these college campuses are in cities with an oversupply of men, so women can opt in to the general population and date some 20 something recent graduate in that city rather easily. These men will be eager to meet them.

We also don't know how COVID world is affecting the on campus environment. Masking makes it more difficult to do approaches.

 

[jjlawrence]

Yeah, the masking and all of the endless covid 'restrictions' are probably putting a huge damper on dating.

I wonder though if the wacky gender imbalance helped men out just prior, say 2015 to 2020. I guess it doesn't matter now. Plus, all of the dependence on tech is probably ****ing with people's minds too.

I've read that many campuses have turned into virtual prisons. I was just wondering if there are less restrictive campuses where dating was like an actual thing.

 

[2Rocky]

Meeting women in college is directly proportional to how many parties you attend. If you are in a living situation that hosts or co-hosts these events you will be exposed to more women in person. In looking at my Alma Mater all Covid restrictions have been lifted as far as gatherings are concerned. Masks only required in the classroom.

I assure you, if you want to be in a fraternity and have the least bit of social ability, you will be given an opportunity to pledge one. Might not be the Jock's house, but you should be able to find guys you feel akin to. It is kind of a cheat code to jumpstart social circle game. You also have your major/your classes social circle. When you cross people between those social circles, you really harness the power of having a diverse social life. IE, you invite girls from your classes to your fraternity mixer. Then they bring their friends.

 

[jjlawrence]

Masks only required in the classroom.

That's crazy. You have the least oxygen when you need it the most.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Meeting women in college is directly proportional to how many parties you attend. If you are in a living situation that hosts or co-hosts these events you will be exposed to more women in person. In looking at my Alma Mater all Covid restrictions have been lifted as far as gatherings are concerned. Masks only required in the classroom.

I assure you, if you want to be in a fraternity and have the least bit of social ability, you will be given an opportunity to pledge one. Might not be the Jock's house, but you should be able to find guys you feel akin to. It is kind of a cheat code to jumpstart social circle game. You also have your major/your classes social circle. When you cross people between those social circles, you really harness the power of having a diverse social life. IE, you invite girls from your classes to your fraternity mixer. Then they bring their friends.

being in a frat gives you access to parties but it doesn’t guarantee free pvssy like the movies show. The 99-1 rule applies there too. Girls will come to parties to meet the top 1% guys and they will clean up. The rest either have consistent GFs or get laid periodically

 

[2Rocky]

being in a frat gives you access to parties but it doesn’t guarantee free pvssy like the movies show. The 99-1 rule applies there too. Girls will come to parties to meet the top 1% guys and they will clean up. The rest either have consistent GFs or get laid periodically

I said meeting women. You still have to do the work and learn to read people.

 

[2Rocky]

That's crazy. You have the least oxygen when you need it the most.

yeah like an operating room... Jeezus....

 

[Don Dark Horse]

It depends on what you study, nursing and Arts tends to be majority women but if you're in IT or engineering it would be a sausage fest.

I can vouch for this. I see physio, as well as speech and hearing, is overwhelmingly female. Engineering has about 1 chick for every 30 guys.

 

[Snag87]

There's also the LGBTQ push. Females seem to buy into this a lot more than men do. I'm guessing there are a lot of women exploring their lesbian side.

But I have to agree that if a guy is good with girls at all, I can't imagine him not having some successes in that rich of an environment.

Studies have shown far more women are engaging in lesbian sex than previous generations.

 

[zekko]

There's no indication that college campuses are creating extended relationships that last. Most undergrads of typical age of either sex will see their college era relationships dissipate by 25-30. 25-30 is also being generous on the timeline.

I know a lot of couples that met in high school and have stayed together ever since. I can't think of one couple I know that met in college, although I'm sure they're out there. College is more career oriented, people tend to graduate and then move where jobs for their field are. I think the Clintons met in college, didn't they?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Studies have shown far more women are engaging in lesbian sex than previous generations.

Because it's what the media encourages, female sexuality is heavily promoted all over the media. Any form of straight male sexuality is heavily suppressed and demonised.

Women are taught from a young age to shame men for showing any sort of sexual interest, add a very liberal media encouraging and promoting lesbianism as "cool" and you have the modern world.

 

[SW15]

I think the Clintons met in college, didn't they?

The Clintons met at Yale Law School. They were both pursuing their JDs. These were not undergrads. The environment in graduate school is different than undergrad. In a lot of schools, there isn't a lot of interaction between grad students and undergrads.

College is more career oriented, people tend to graduate and then move where jobs for their field are.

This is true at both the undergraduate and graduate levels. While in undergrad, I knew that I wasn't likely to stay in that same city post graduation, which woukld impact duration of romantic relationships then. The same thing was true in graduate school for me.

I can't think of one couple I know that met in college, although I'm sure they're out there.

In my social circle, there is a couple that met as undergrads. They started dating when she was a senior and he was a junior. They later married.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I said meeting women. You still have to do the work and learn to read people.

you’re better off not paying attention 1k in dues. If you’re not a Chad or the relationship guy, the most you’ll get is once a quarter pvssy from a desperate sloot.

 

[MatureDJ]

I just read an article which claimed that the female to male ratio on college campuses now is 60:40. That's a huge disparity. For those guys in college, I have to imagine this is creating a huge imbalance in the dating market, obviously favoring men. This has to be a favorable situation, right?

There's a possibility that the feminist propaganda acts as a counter balance, but numbers don't lie. I can't see how this huge disparity doesn't give men an advantage.

I'm a decade out of college so don't have much first hand experience recently.

If half the coeds are fat, then you have a 30:40 ratio, and we haven't even touched hypergamy.

 

[MatureDJ]

It depends on what you study, nursing and Arts tends to be majority women but if you're in IT or engineering it would be a sausage fest.

I got my degree in engineering (mechanical), and can remember every single coed (all 3 of them, out of a possible ~150 students I've shared classes with) that was in my major-only courses.