"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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College and my dorm is NASTY

Babnik

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So, we go on a date, it goes fine..she laughs, kino, kiss...I want to isolate and f*ck...BUT my freaking dorm is nasty. I live with 3 guys and one of them is a **** who hasn't gone to his classes all semester...he is dirty, stinky, SUB-HUMAN (as I call him). He spreads crap all over the living room and doesn't use the trash can. Heck, he ran out of toilet paper so he used his hands...

There is NOTHING I can do about him...housing policy is crap (I tried).

So, to cut it short...girls cannot see my place!

I feel awkward saying "Lets go to YOUR place" unless they invite...

What can I do about it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tell her your roomate is a slob and your dorm is nasty :p
 

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Skel said:
Tell her your roomate is a slob and your dorm is nasty :p
If she asks to go to my place herself...

Thats not how it happens. I have to offer...and it seems I have to offer to go to HER place, which makes it awkward...
 

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Your roommate is an unclean layabout whose foul stench is subsidized by his equally filthy parents.

Why not express this to the girl and counter-offer her place? That doesn't sound awkward to me. That sounds like a plan!

You should also either persuade your roommate to clean up his act, or petition for his removal or relocation from the dorm.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Demon said:
Your roommate is an unclean layabout whose foul stench is subsidized by his equally filthy parents.

Why not express this to the girl and counter-offer her place? That doesn't sound awkward to me. That sounds like a plan!

You should also either persuade your roommate to clean up his act, or petition for his removal or relocation from the dorm.
agreed, he sounds like a friggen dirty skanky human being. I told my roommate about him and he screamed, "Ohhhh... that's worse than Geoff!!!"

comic_relief
 

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I live with 3 other guys in my apartment and its pretty nasty. But, if you bring a girl back to your place and she is truely interested, she isnt gonna leave just because your place is nasty. Just say your roommates are slobs, and get back to business.
 

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cefiro said:
I live with 3 other guys in my apartment and its pretty nasty. But, if you bring a girl back to your place and she is truely interested, she isnt gonna leave just because your place is nasty. Just say your roommates are slobs, and get back to business.
I live with 3 other guys myself, and it can look pretty ****ed up at times. I agree that it's kinda embarresing to take girls home when it looks like ****. Even though they won't comment on it, doesn't mean they don't think to themselves. I asked a female friend of mine what she would think if I brought her home and it looked like it did at that time. She said she would probably wonder if either of us cared about our hygiene at all and if we even bothered to change boxers every day..

To the original poster; You should definitly confront your roomate and tell him to get his act together. Don't be afraid to say what you mean. If he won't listen then maybe you should try to be relocated or kick him out or something. When I feel like things are getting out of hand here at home, I tell the guys that we need to shape up! Then it gets better for a while, until we have to have yet another peptalk :)
 
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