Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Cold Season

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I had to cancel 3 dates because I was sick last week, so if your girl cancels she might not be lying. Everyone I know is sick. If you're not sick, take precautions to avoid this nasty flu going around. Sunlight, Zinc, and Chlorophyll are good in particular. And as far as the "I don't get sick" people, I hadn't had a cold in years. I think it's good to catch a cold once in a while as it's a detoxifying experience.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm considering doing a detox in the NY. Haven't done for years. Once you get over the initial shock of withdrawal, you notice benefits that seem to last for months.

I take activated charcoal from time to time to cleanse the gut. Zinc and vitamin D as well. Gonna start on coconut and castor oils as well.
 

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Ya, it is probably the one of the few exceptions I will make for a flake this time of year
 

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Magnesium 425 mg. It creates a more alkaline system that illness doesn't like. As well, we get too much calcium (which leads to arthritis and osteoporosis and lung gunk) and supplementing with magnesium ensures that your body will rid itself of the excess calcium
 

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Funny you bring this up... these last weeks been brutal.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Magnesium 425 mg. It creates a more alkaline system that illness doesn't like. As well, we get too much calcium (which leads to arthritis and osteoporosis and lung gunk) and supplementing with magnesium ensures that your body will rid itself of the excess calcium
I have had an alkaline diet before. Like 70-30% alkaline-acid food. It really helps on all sorts of levels.
 

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Almost universally, advice in the dating community is "If she cancels because she says she is sick, she has low interest and you should next her". The rationale is: "If a woman is interested in a man she will do anything for him, including looking bad, wiping boogers on his sleeve, and coughing phlegm all over him".

Assuming she is not interested is a really bad idea if she really is sick. That's a time when she needs you. Also, remember that as soon as you say something like "Are you lying to me to avoid seeing me?" they start to lose interest. Finally, you should not try to set a definite date in the future yet (whether it is you or her cancelling) because you don't know how long it takes to get better. The average cold lasts 2 weeks, so 1-3 weeks is the norm.
 

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Almost universally, advice in the dating community is "If she cancels because she says she is sick, she has low interest and you should next her". The rationale is: "If a woman is interested in a man she will do anything for him, including looking bad, wiping boogers on his sleeve, and coughing phlegm all over him".

Assuming she is not interested is a really bad idea if she really is sick. That's a time when she needs you. Also, remember that as soon as you say something like "Are you lying to me to avoid seeing me?" they start to lose interest. Finally, you should not try to set a definite date in the future yet (whether it is you or her cancelling) because you don't know how long it takes to get better. The average cold lasts 2 weeks, so 1-3 weeks is the norm.
I think it can be taken a step further. Whether a girl is sick, if she's just saying she's sick, if she's painting the wall or banging the fcking milkman; if she doesn't want to see you, she doesn't want to see you. And that is that.

A child thinks they always get their own way. A man gets on with his life.
 

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My approach is always to simply stop all contact and wait until she reaches out.
 

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Magnesium 425 mg. It creates a more alkaline system that illness doesn't like. As well, we get too much calcium (which leads to arthritis and osteoporosis and lung gunk) and supplementing with magnesium ensures that your body will rid itself of the excess calcium

Spot on !

Magnesium levels along with Vitamin D and K2 regulate Calcium levels which are stored everywhere ..... leading to what you posted about AND blood clogs.

If you drink coffe, alcohol or work out it is very likely you are Magnesium defficient.



As for the chicks, you can usually find out during a phone call if she really is sick or she is just not interested.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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one time I was supposed to go out with a POFer, second date, and I got the flu. I apologized profusely and told him I would absolutely let him know when I was feeling better and we could plan the date. I then checked in with him about once a day to let him know how I was feeling.

I still believe, even if they have a cold/are ill, they should give you some indication that they are going to let you know when they feel better. I agree that a "I hope you feel better soon. Text me when you are feeling better and ready to make plans" is a sufficient reply.
 

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Speaking from someone that just went through this nasty stomach flu, I have 3 women waiting on me to feel better. 2 of which offered to bring me stuff yesterday while I was off work, at home, getting through it. One showed up with baby food and pepto lol.

The only time the "I am sick" response wouldnt work for me is if they dropped that at the last minute before we were supposed to meet up. I really dont change my process. If they offer a reschedule, thats fine. I send them the "hope you feel better.....let me know when you feel up to meeting up for a drink".

Then I leave it at that.
 

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The only time the "I am sick" response wouldnt work for me is if they dropped that at the last minute before we were supposed to meet up.
Yes, the person cancelling should tell the other person the night before the date if they are sick. Also, these days a person can usually see from social media the status of a person who is not feeling well. If you see photos of her partying that might be bad.

Example:

Person A "I apologize but I'm under the weather and just not feeling up for going out tomorrow night. I need a rain check."
Person B "I understand. Get well soon."
(Wait until they say they feel well - no need for definite plans yet)
 
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