"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Cold hi from a girl which hates me.

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There is a oneitis who she liked me so much that I messed up very badly almost a 3 weeks ago. She deleted me from facebook without any legit reason then started to bang with other guys.

Now I see her almost everyday around with alone or with her roommate who also give me a cold shoulder.

Current thing that I am doing is completely ignoring her. Not even saying a hi. But when she sees me she give me a very cold hi like she still hates me but willing to talk.

Yesterday I was waiting to cross street and she appeared next to me and said hi. I asked for a smoke and she gave me then I left saying with ser you around without looking her.

Today almost 1 hr ago I went to a sushi restaurant. She was inside with her roommate. I simply ignored and ordered my food then sat outside. When they leave I was talking with my cellphone and she and her roommate gave me another cold hi. Just said see ya and continued my business.

I still in NC to get over from her completely but this random encounters makes me a little bit tense and the way she acts towards me makes me want to talk with her in a "what is your problem" or "lets talk" manner. I know if I try this she is just try to LJBF bull**** or gonna say nothing!

She will gonna back to her country in 4 weeks I think.

I simply see the best option is still NC and move on. What do u think guys?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Also even I am still like her I hate her because of the thing that was dumping and starting to bang with other guys.
 

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astrn said:
I still in NC to get over from her completely but this random encounters makes me a little bit tense and the way she acts towards me makes me want to talk with her in a "what is your problem" or "lets talk" manner. I know if I try this she is just try to LJBF bull**** or gonna say nothing!
Which is EXACTLY what she wants. More than anything she wants attention from you, even if it is negative. Girls crave attention. That is why complete NC is so effective. You can tell her you hate her, and you think she is stupid, but she will still gain some type of pleasure in that. She still got attention. It shows you still care.

The best thing you can do is to keep ignoring her, and keep her out of your life as much as possible. If you ever do need to interact with her, keep it calm, polite and emotionless, as if you were talking to a stranger.
 

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Starfvcks 64 said:
Which is EXACTLY what she wants. More than anything she wants attention from you, even if it is negative. Girls crave attention. That is why complete NC is so effective. You can tell her you hate her, and you think she is stupid, but she will still gain some type of pleasure in that. She still got attention. It shows you still care.

The best thing you can do is to keep ignoring her, and keep her out of your life as much as possible. If you ever do need to interact with her, keep it calm, polite and emotionless, as if you were talking to a stranger.
^^This. Stick to your guns and ignore the bıtch.
 

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Thanks guys. As I thought I will keep NC and also stay away from the same places that me and she is going for being total ghost...

I am gonna let her crawl for more attention like a little baby...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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