"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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fertileTurtle

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How do you just start up a conversation with a chick? I mean in any random situation that one would come across in a day.
For example, I just opened a door for this chick and she smiled and said "thank you," but that was it.

This question is somewhat general and open-ended, because I want whatever answer that comes to mind. Maybe even a previous post will do.
I know you should find something in your environment that leads the conversation and maybe say something interesting or funny, but how is this done well?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Randallpink83

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yes it is very general and open ended... there is no correct answer... Every situation is unique...


Grow and Learn yourself as a human being. Thats a task that is attainable and reasonable.


Develop your creative mind. Grow a true interest in people. Let your sense of humor dominate.

Only your Attitude, Character and Charisma can help you in these areas.
 

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I was in line today at the dining hall and there was a really long line to get to the food. So I am waiting and as the line moves along we pass the coffee part of the line and this kid in front of me fills his cup up and turns back to me and says "might as well man we are gonna be here a while we might be here all night". I found this to be a good learning experience in just being social and if it was a girl he was talking to instead of me that would of been a great starter for convo.
 

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fertileTurtle said:
I know you should find something in your environment that leads the conversation and maybe say something interesting or funny, but how is this done well?
Practice.

That's the only way you'll get good at starting situational conversations.

And don't post questions in the tips forum. :box:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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