Cold Approaching - What are the signs?

[thewarrior]

What are the signs you should cold approach a girl?

When I'm in malls and stuff, I never see an opportunity. Girls are glued to their cellphone, walking fast, eating at a table in the food court.

Does a girl have to be doing nothing for you to cold approach?

Can someone describe their cold approaches and what the girl was doing when you started the conversation? It would be much help...

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

Well, I've been on the receiving end of a cold approach... and it turned into something that would last 4 years. I was on my cell phone, telling off my ex (who wouldn't quit calling me), and yelling at the guy in WalMart because they f*cked up my oil change, left my windows down and my keys in the car! I had such a fit they gave it to me for free.

Anyhow, Johnny, my now ex-boyfriend, saw it right to approach me and ask for my number. As I'm on the phone. As I'm standing in line, yelling at this guy.

I was having the time of my life ripping everyone around me and here's there's dood, who appears out of nowhere and asks if I want to get a soda.

I looked at him and said something like, "Wtf do you want?" LOL long story short his charisma and personality won me over. He was totally AFC, lacked timing and whatnot, but you know, I'm glad he did what he did. We had many years of fun and companionship together because of it.

He later told me that he decided to approach me based purely and solely on the fact that I could take care of myself and (he thought) I'd be pretty low maintenance. He said he really appreciated a woman who wouldn't let herself be d!cked around. He didn't tell me that until years later, though.

Oh yeah, so where I was going with all this. Women out and about in public are generally going to be doing something, ya know? Like, not just sitting around waiting for you to come over and say hi. BUT, I don't suggest approaching people on the phone... that's incredibly rude and will make the girl and you feel pretty uncomfortable. Just a thought. =)

 

[Kevin Feng]

I mean obviously exercise common sense, like if a girl is on her cell phone, don't approach her or if she's talking to some sales person, don't interrupt.

Aside from that you should be okay with "interrupting" a girl, I remember reading that in the lay guide, you should really get yourself in the mind set that you find it acceptable to approach a girl regardless.

Again, I'm not saying be rude, but you really need to get yourself in a fearless mindset, otherwise you'll find yourself getting defeated by your own AA.

-Kevin

 

[ssj4halo]

whats the lay guide?

 

[thewarrior]

Cool story plaything...

Yeah, what is the layguide?

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

YEAH WHAT IS IT?? LOL Now I'm curious!!

 

[thewarrior]

I'm gonna stop posting threads because I hardly get any replies. Surely my questions aren't that dumb. Actually, I'm going to quit this website entirely and just learn from failure. Thanks!