Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Cold Approaching Illegal???

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social circle game is fine, but to limit yourself to it is dumb...

also all you guys saying cold approaches don't work are just ignorant and are too scared to do it. there are plenty of guys, even guys outside the community, who get laid off cold approaches.

if you saw a cute girl at the grocery store or the mall, there would be absolutely no reason NOT to approach her unless you're a pansy. a real man goes after what he wants. and that sh1t works anyway. A real man doesn't see his perfect 10 in public and still try to rely on social circle, hoping desperately that she knows a friend of a friend of a friend.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Look, cold approaching might work for some people, but it doesn't always work for everybody. Some people are better at cold approaching then others. The art of pick-up is like any art, in the sense that you have to find a style that works for you. You have to find a style that comes natural.

Finding that rhythm isn't easy for most people. That's why the early stages are the most critical stages. The early stages can either make you or break you. It can be fun, but it can also be disastrous and disappointing. It depends on how you look at it.

In the beginning stages, You need to try everything and learn from trial and error. Just like an actor will try many different types of acting before sticking to one that comes natural to them or a singer will try many different genres of music before concentrating on one that comes natural to them. This is how you should be approaching women in the beginning. Try to find your natural groove!

Cold approaching obviously isn't working for your nephew. Maybe he needs to try something new. Guess what? Cold approaching doesn't work for me either or half the guys on this forum! But personally, I think this town lacks a sense of humor. More on that some other day.
 

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justiceseeker said:
So, he tells me after making several approaches on random women, and being rejected almost everytime, SECURITY stops them. They had received complaints that he was HARASSING women in the mall. Now, according to him, all he was doing was approaching and asking if they'd like to go out sometime. Most of the time he'd make small talk, then go for the close.
That's according to him that "all he was doing was..." We need to hear from the women's point of view. In this day and age, people have guns, knives, bombs, weapons, you name it. There is no way they felt comfortable enough talking to him and his approach was weak. I also doubt he started the conversations smoothly and in a none threatening way since all the women he approached called mall security.

I'd call security too if a person came up to just like that and starting talking.
 
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What probably happened is there was one stand-out approach that went poorly, then the woman complained about it.
 
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