Cold approach - kick in the ass

[Evzone]

You need to understand that failure isn't that bad, and that it is part of the game. There is really nothing on this board that we can tell you to motivate you; you are going to need to dig deep within yourself for your own motivation.

Look, you're only hurting yourself by not approaching. "Just do it" is the most solid advice that we can give, and take it literally and to the core. Learn from your mistakes in the process.

The problem is, you won't have any mistakes to learn from if you are not out there gaining experience by approaching. Get to work.

 

[King Turi]

You do realize that you're not gonna bang these chicks just 'cuz you said hi to them?

I think you might be feeling like if you say hi suddenly you have to date them or something, what makes you that special? Haha..

Sayin' hi is just that.. sayin' hi.. there's no other motives goin' on.

Basically you just gotta do it.

 

[War Against Betaism]

There is a dvd program called 'demonic confidence'. I suggest 'acquiring' this program. I've been too lazy to really do it, but you're motivated, obviously. The first step is to ask thirty people (not girls, people) what time it is, within a half hour. Personnally, since everyone has a cell phone with the time nowadays, I would ask for the date, instead. It seems a little less obvious, and way more natural. Yes, I know cell phones tell the date too, but I wouldnt give a second thought to anyone asking me the date, but anyone who doesnt know the time, is weird, cuz almost everyone has a cell phone.

Wow, it seems like a really good program I'd want to get into. When I was first starting out, one of the first things I've learned to get rid of approach anxiety was just to make small talk with people, not just women. I remember taking a bus to my local mall, sitting on the benches, saw as hundreds and hundreds of people walked past me and I never budged. I still didn't have the balls to do it.

Asking for the time though? I've never ever thought about that, it's an excellent stepping stone; there is absolutely no harm in asking for the time and if you're a person that was old enough that went out before the time of cellphones, you've more than likely asked for the time a lot more than once. I'm going to look into this program.

 

[AreYouSingleFemale]

You do realize that you're not gonna bang these chicks just 'cuz you said hi to them?

Exactly. So why say 'hi'? I find it to be the dumbest thing to say to a stranger.

 

[pua1989]

Exactly. So why say 'hi'? I find it to be the dumbest thing to say to a stranger.

why not? you must be avery cynical person. i smile all day and say hi to anyone and everyone because were all on this planet together might as well be a friendly person. lifes too short

 

[AreYouSingleFemale]

why not? you must be avery cynical person. i smile all day and say hi to anyone and everyone because were all on this planet together might as well be a friendly person. lifes too short

most women will only stare blankly at you if you just say hi and wait for a response. That is not unexpected because if someone ever said hi to me I would be squeezing my eyebrows and try to remember if I know this person, insteading of saying hi back.

 

[King Turi]

Well when I say say "hi" I mean like.. begin a normal conversation.. I don't literally mean say "hi" and just stare at them.

 

[AreYouSingleFemale]

well coming back to your original comment, if you start a normal conversation instead of just saying hi, then you are entitled to bang them. no?

 

[King Turi]

I don't think you understand what I was sayin', bro.

The point I was trying to get across was to not feel scared or intimidated when sayin' "hi" to a chick, 'cuz that's all you're doin', sayin' "hi".

I was trying to get across that saying "hi" to someone doesn't mean you're asking them to marry you.

 

[AreYouSingleFemale]

i did understood your comment but my aim is to bang, not to talk for the heck of it. so i was trying to find what other things you think must do in addition to talking in order to bang them.

 

[King Turi]

Yeah but this dude is havin' trouble saying hi to random people, so I was trying to ease the pressure.

If you want to bang some random chick, then go up to her and say "you should come out to xxx place at xxx time".

She won't know who the hell you are but who cares, she'll probably rock up if it's a well known pub or like a karaoke night or something.

Karaoke nights are so easy to pick ladies up at.