Since not many friends of mine have other single friends, cold approaches seem to be where I land.
I met this girl at school a few weeks ago, suggested we grab some coffee and got her number. We met for coffee a few days later, I paid and Good conversation followed. She is kind of quiet, and when I ran into her at school after this, I first took it as her not being interested.
I decided to stick my neck out there and call her again anyways. We ended up going to see a movie last night, again I paid, and as the movie was playing I went to hold her hand and she just shook her head no and turned back towards the screen.
I should have just said "No? Ok have a good time" and left, but I thought of it too late to be able to leave without looking like a chump, so I just kept watching the movie, slightly chuckling to myself at my failure. After the movie we chatted about the movie on the way outside, she (very smiling, maybe sinister-style) said thanks for the movie, I said ok later. That was it.
Now, I am kinda a pvssy when it comes to flirting, I had to force myself to get over the nervousness of tryin to hold her hand, not so bad once I was shut down.
Was I wrong to think that even though there hadn't been any solid flirting yet, more conversation, that it was a date? And if so, how do you cold approach someone and make it clear that you are interested in a DATE and not just going out as friends.
I'm tryin to learn from any mistakes I may have made. Feel free to bash me too.
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I met this girl at school a few weeks ago, suggested we grab some coffee and got her number. We met for coffee a few days later, I paid and Good conversation followed. She is kind of quiet, and when I ran into her at school after this, I first took it as her not being interested.
I decided to stick my neck out there and call her again anyways. We ended up going to see a movie last night, again I paid, and as the movie was playing I went to hold her hand and she just shook her head no and turned back towards the screen.
I should have just said "No? Ok have a good time" and left, but I thought of it too late to be able to leave without looking like a chump, so I just kept watching the movie, slightly chuckling to myself at my failure. After the movie we chatted about the movie on the way outside, she (very smiling, maybe sinister-style) said thanks for the movie, I said ok later. That was it.
Now, I am kinda a pvssy when it comes to flirting, I had to force myself to get over the nervousness of tryin to hold her hand, not so bad once I was shut down.
Was I wrong to think that even though there hadn't been any solid flirting yet, more conversation, that it was a date? And if so, how do you cold approach someone and make it clear that you are interested in a DATE and not just going out as friends.
I'm tryin to learn from any mistakes I may have made. Feel free to bash me too.
EDITED FOR CLARIFICATION
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