"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cold Approach # close field report

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So I'm leaving class today and see a very cute girl I haven't seen before waiting at the busstop I am going to. She is an 8. I notice she is using a camelback backpack so I use that to open her.
"Are you using a camelback to carry your books?"

"yes"

"Isn't that a little out of place?"

"Yes but I got it while I was abroad and it was a good size so I decided to use it this semester"

"I just got back from abroad too, I was in Australia where did you go?"

She went to Costa Rica and we started exchanging stories about study abroad and traveling. I find out she got scuba certified abroad and I have been a life long diver so I tell her a story about the whale I saw diving in western Australia. She seemed interested the whole time and asked me questions about it. The bus is about to come to my stop which is one of the first so I mention quickly that I did a shark dive in Fiji and that I still have the flyer and stuff. I'm less than a minute from my stop so I go for the close.

"I'd tell you the story but it's kind of long and I'm about to get off so how about you give me your number and we can get some coffee sometime and I'll tell you about it."

She gives me her number.

"Your name was Mark right?"

"Yes and you were rebecca."

In retrospect I think I did pretty solid, I didn't go into all the detail but she was very engaged the whole time. She asked me my name first and later confirmed it before I left. Thinking later, I should have called her out on the fact that she was going to facebook stalk me immediately and that was why she confirmed my name. I could have added some more teasing but I think I did well. I think I'll call her on sunday when everyone is in the library to get coffee in the afternoon and I'll just slip the shark dive flyer in my bag in the morning to show it off. Opinions?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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j0n024

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Dang I want to try scuba diving! Is it really hard or is it like riding a bike once you learn how to do it it's easy? Dude Kudos to you brother I wanna try that someday! Plus I am going to lie and steal your story lol (I'm in the clear since our ocean is dirty with sand and you actually have to leave the state to scuba so lol) Good job brother!
 

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nice storytelling...do you attend university?
 

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j0n024 said:
Dang I want to try scuba diving! Is it really hard or is it like riding a bike once you learn how to do it it's easy? Dude Kudos to you brother I wanna try that someday! Plus I am going to lie and steal your story lol (I'm in the clear since our ocean is dirty with sand and you actually have to leave the state to scuba so lol) Good job brother!
lol true where are you from in texas?
 

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j0n024 said:
Dang I want to try scuba diving! Is it really hard or is it like riding a bike once you learn how to do it it's easy? Dude Kudos to you brother I wanna try that someday! Plus I am going to lie and steal your story lol (I'm in the clear since our ocean is dirty with sand and you actually have to leave the state to scuba so lol) Good job brother!
Dude if you want to scuba dive just sign up for a course. Check out www.padi.com and you can search for a nearby dive shop. Diving is not like riding a bike at all, there are some inherent dangers but if you follow the guidelines you will be perfectly safe. Just make sure you get certifies before you go diving or else you could get into decompression sickness or serious nitrogen narcosis and not even know about it. Diving is awesome I love doing it every chance I get and it is also something that can set you apart and make you unique.

To the other guy who asked yes I am at an American university. My university has three campuses and the undergrads are spread out on all three so we have a bus service to get around.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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