Cold appraoches are stupid

[theapprentice]

I think that cold approaches are stupid and pointless, and they dont work. I mean honestly how many girl does a guy meet by just walking up to a stranger or in public that he has no connection or common element with.

You need to be sitting down somewhere or be in a classroom or be somewhere that brings people together like a club or a bar.

 

[tuxen]

It is this kind of negative attitude that will get you nowhere

I have pulled off some great approaches from the street.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

I mean honestly how many girl does a guy meet by just walking up to a stranger or in public that he has no connection or common element with.

The secret to a cold approach is to realize that you have a common element with someone you've never met, even if they don't realize it. For instance, that you happen to be within 20 yards of someone and are sharing environmental stimuli. Sometimes the easiest commonality to establish is a sincere interest in the other person. If you have to rely on a pretense to create your opportunities, you're going to be impotent when there isn't one so readily apparent.

By the way, the answer to your question: Every single one.

 

[theapprentice]

ahh..

yeah what do you say to soembody waiting at the bus stop with you. Come on... or sitting on a bench or whatever

you:hey great weather
girl: yeah (rolls eyes)

or wait

you: whats your name
girl: Do I know you?

Wait wait

I got it now

you: Whats your name?
girl: Do I know you?
you: You do now...my name is Mark.

I mean seriously you dont have much of a chance.

 

[Trapper]

exactly... but there are some exceptional girls on the street....depends on your luck..

 

[theapprentice]

Well

I dont want to go everywhere and try to talk to everyone I see just in the hopes of meeting a very attractive girl. I mean that seems like a hell of an effort to try and talk to every chick you meet, and feels desperate.

That my whole object everytime is to try and talk to 50 chicks so that maybe one will say yes. That seems afully stupid.

I mean everytime you see a girl you have to overcome the fear of rejection and psych yourself into talking to somebody just to hear a "No"

Its just like the situation with economy, the people with more confidence keep getting more and people with less keep getting lesser with each rejection.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

How about this: "I'm trying to get to point B, but I don't even know where point A is, are you from around here?"

"Been waiting for a while? Where're you heading?"

"Just leaving work/school?"

"Pardon me, You don't know me, but I'm from Las Vegas and I'm scouting for showgirls..."

"You know, I swore when I got my Porsche I'd never ride the bus again..."

All of these are just icebreakers. You can strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere, anytime. All you have to do is crack their initial barriers, and you can go exploring from there into what you have in common.

 

[theapprentice]

Well

I cant think of things that creative. I dont want to memorize them.

 

[D_Master]

It sounds to me like you've tried a few times and failed and now you don't believe a cold approach success is possible at all, no matter what anyone says you come back with some negative comment.

 

[theapprentice]

No

Believe it or not. My last one was very successful. I got the number. I was scared sh*tless though. I can't keep pushing myself, I go crazy putting so much pressure on myself to talk to strangers.

I want to relax and not feel like my manhood is on the line everytime I see a chick walk by.

Plus Im not that creative.

 

[theapprentice]

hmm..

Its exhausting to have to psych yourself up everytime.

 

[Cash]

Its exhausting to have to psych yourself up everytime.

Then don't. Go in with a super relaxed (don't give a shít) state and talk sweet nothings. This aint no job interview.

 

[StoneColdFox]

You don't always have to see it as an approach.

For example walking next to someone on the street..who doesn't have "fvck off" written across her forehead lol. Just say hello, or.. hi how are you.. lol Make it a conversation, than at the end say well it was great meeting you, give me your number and we'll finish this conversation later..


you think to much amigo.

 

[senator]

I think that cold approaches are stupid and pointless, and they dont work. I mean honestly how many girl does a guy meet by just walking up to a stranger or in public that he has no connection or common element with.

You need to be sitting down somewhere or be in a classroom or be somewhere that brings people together like a club or a bar.

Nonsense! Some of the most favorable, refreshing, and spontaneous pickups and sucesses are acheived by off-the-cuff cold approaches.
It pleasantly surprises the target and flatters them immensly. DO NOT discount it!!!

 

[bballkilla]

i prefer to meet girls through friends or something, i'm not gonna just see some girl on the street and go try to pick her up when she's in the middle of doing something.

cold approaches are stupid. i mean, walking up to some random person? at least know something about them before you go talk to them.

 

[StoneColdFox]

Well it does depend on the situation.. but if everyone met everyone through everyone.. it had to have started some where lol.

Of course the persons body language has to be welcoming, and does depend on the situation.

Yep..

 

[Fuglydude]

I think dudes that can pull off Cold approaches have so much confidence. I'm so stinky at cold approaches on the street that I make the dude from Napolean Dynamite look like a supa-playa!

 

[Phyzzle]

Look up the user Self-Mastery. He got some hot girlfriends by cold approaching.

You're right, it is the most annoying way to go, though. Better to be out doing as many things as possible with any group you can join.

 

[Sun Tzu]

Believe it or not. My last one was very successful. I got the number. I was scared sh*tless though. I can't keep pushing myself, I go crazy putting so much pressure on myself to talk to strangers.

I want to relax and not feel like my manhood is on the line everytime I see a chick walk by.

Plus Im not that creative.

You've got to back off and simply work on talking to people, both male and female. Make the mental shift to take a genuine interest in the people you meet. Do not expect a payoff other than gaining practice and experience approaching people with confidence.

 

[gettingstronger]

I think that cold approaches are stupid and pointless, and they dont work. I mean honestly how many girl does a guy meet by just walking up to a stranger or in public that he has no connection or common element with.

You need to be sitting down somewhere or be in a classroom or be somewhere that brings people together like a club or a bar.

I have met and fvked many girls from cold approaches. You are not doing it right