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I no longer request coke when I order, I say coca cola. Anyone else have this problem?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bring the stupid vodka alreadyI no longer request coke when I order, I say coca cola. Anyone else have this problem?
Zero for colaWe still say Coke or Pepsi in my neck of the woods. When I order I just say “diet” and then they tell me what they have in diet, or ask “Diet Pepsi ok?”
WTF? Are you on the same meds as SoSausage?I no longer request coke when I order, I say coca cola. Anyone else have this problem?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The problem is.....out of Russia mouth Coke sounds liek C0ck. Gimme an extra large C0ck!!!We still say Coke