"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cognitive function and getting hit in the head

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Anyone here that plays a contact sport worry about their cognitive function? Last year I started kickboxing and although I find it difficult and im probably not the most gifted of students, I really enjoy getting to fight.

Last time I sparred I took a bit of a whipping off one of the more experienced guys and ended up with a black eye and had a problem chewing for the next days. My question is will getting hit in the head like this once a week give me problems down the line? I will be hopefully starting work as a software developer in a couple months time and need all the brain cells i can retain.. but id also like to carry on kick boxing because i really enjoy it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Trama is accumulitive. Your brain literally gets bruised when head impact is sufficient. When you get "knocked out" the cranial trama is hard enough to cause you to short circuit neural function and you become unconscious. Concussive force causes the brain to slam into one part of the skull and then recoil and slam into the opposite area of the skull. It is referred to as cou and contracou. If impact is hard enough the brain will bleed. Blood literally kills brain tissue. That's what happens when people have a "stroke" or the more correct term of cardiovascular accident (CVA). And it can be lethal. So to answer your question should you continue to receive cranial impacts through fighting? Depends on how much you value your current, and more importantly your future cognitive function. If it were me, I would think hard and long about full contact martial arts. Choose wisely Grasshopper as your life can be massively effected by one blow or kick. Good luck.
 

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Oops. Coup and contracoup. Damn auto correct!
 

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Anyone here that plays a contact sport worry about their cognitive function?
My question is will getting hit in the head like this once a week give me problems down the line?
Ask a NFL Pro or Mohammad Ali about CTE. My recommendation is don’t do physically and/or mentally damaging part time sports.…
Quite a bit different, but no difiference health wise, if you get paid millions to endure it…
Yolo, and you’re the only one to decide how that plays out.
 

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Anyone here that plays a contact sport worry about their cognitive function? Last year I started kickboxing and although I find it difficult and im probably not the most gifted of students, I really enjoy getting to fight.

Last time I sparred I took a bit of a whipping off one of the more experienced guys and ended up with a black eye and had a problem chewing for the next days. My question is will getting hit in the head like this once a week give me problems down the line? I will be hopefully starting work as a software developer in a couple months time and need all the brain cells i can retain.. but id also like to carry on kick boxing because i really enjoy it.
A few times, that is when you need to use ground attacks to get you out of trouble. Sweep the legs, then attack. I do not do kickboxing, but I do concentrate in muay thai and jujitsu, where it's still legal to do.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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glass half full

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Ask a NFL Pro or Mohammad Ali about CTE. My recommendation is don’t do physically and/or mentally damaging part time sports.…
Quite a bit different, but no difiference health wise, if you get paid millions to endure it…
Yolo, and you’re the only one to decide how that plays out.
Yes this sucks...I get a sudden grabbing pain in the left temple of my head about once a month, sometimes twice. Doesn't last long, but always feels like a repeat performance of getting hit.
 

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You don't have to be concussed or knocked unconscious to suffer the effects of chronic traumatic encephalopathy.

Unless you're getting serious, serious money to take this punishment I'd lift or ride a bike instead.

Whatever rush you're getting now is probably not worth the problems that COULD develop later on down the road.

This from someone who boxed for years by the way. I'd never let my son or daughter do the same.
 

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Last time I sparred I took a bit of a whipping off one of the more experienced guys.
Anyone who beats up their sparring partner is a douche bag. And that goes as well for whoever was supposed to be in charge of that place, who should not have let that happen. Sparring is training, not fighting. It is moronic to beat up your own training partners.

I used to train with the best group of fighters near me, and one of the guys would bring his 9 y/o stepdaughter to train with us. And that girl never had a mark on her. Fighters with skill have control over the amount of force they use. Temper it down to spar with people of lower ability is the right idea. That is better training than beating up new people. Go somewhere that they have that mentality. Don't judge a martial art on one group of idiots who beat each other up for fun. That is not what it is supposed to be about.
 

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Would prefer train alone nowadays...too much attitude in the world in general. As in, at home with a trusted friend.

Never thought society would keep descending, will it be like a Mad Max movie in 25 years?
Sometimes I do wonder.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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