Cognitive dissonance or hypocrisy?

[DongWong]

Growing up, I was always under the impression that guys needed to approach women and that is how people meet and that is how you get a date or girlfriend. This was before social media and online dating, so cold approaches were more normal. Nowadays, I feel like the modern feminist movement has demonized men and victimized women. If a guy approaches a girl, then he's a "creep" and it is considered harassment. However, if a guy doesn't approach a girl that he was interested in, then he's a p*ssy. This nonsense logic irritates me because I feel like the only way for me to meet women is to approach them because my circle of friends don't have any available or worthwhile women for me to meet.

The hypocrisy in this is that women only consider men "creeps" if she doesn't find him attractive but consider the guy confident and charming if he is attractive. The word "creep" is used so loosely nowadays that it should just replace the word "ugly". Even ugly b*tches gets to pick and choose. The whole idea of confidence is about approaching women even if you feel nervous and are able to overcome your fears of approaching. But I guess approaching has become an under appreciated art. These b*tches don't know what it's like because they never had to do it once in their lives.

Why do guys get punished for putting himself on the line?

 

[bigneil]

The word creepy just means odd or strange. It is not a physical description. It's like saying a girl is crazy. The only girl I know who used this word to describe me dated me for years, so I wouldn't take it that seriously.

 

[ohrein]

Cognitive dissonance. It's driven primarily by subconscious attraction or the lack thereof. There are actually women who recognize this but most don't really think about it.

All women are the selectors. Men can impregnate a bunch of women in the space of an hour. A woman has one egg a month. But you're right about the fact the price of ***** is high. Women categorize 80% of men as below average in attractiveness. Most men are dating well below their real potential, from a physical point of view anyway.

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/

 

[RangerMIke]

Men do need to approach women. Don't worry about all the feminist BS, if you don't approach you are a pvssy, because you are afraid of her and how she is going to react. She might say she doesn't like it, but women ALWAYS appreciate male attention.

You are only a creep when she isn't attracted to you, and you won't know this until she rejects your approach. If she rejects you, don't take it personal, it really is HER problem, it's not you. It's her loss, be polite and walk away, you won't be a creep... As long as you don't keep trying when she gives you obvious signs of disinterest she'll take your approach as a compliment.

 

[Yewki]

Why do guys get punished for putting himself on the line?

If you're a confident person with outcome dependence, you won't actually give a sh*t if she thinks you're a creep or not