coachD's field journal

[coachD]

A couple of notes from yesterday.

I went to dance class and it was mostly void of attractive ladies. There is one big breasted and slightly heavy 6 that I decided to flirt with. Maybe make her a plate until I get a little better at gaming. Anyway, we are heading out to dance and she asks if I want gum. I take it and start chewing and immediately bite my lower lip.

Me: Ow, I just bit my lip.
Boobs: Really? How did it taste?
Me: It tasted like 'AWESOME'.

I don't know where I came up with that line but thought I'd share it. She thought it was hilarious.

After class I went to see a friend of my playing at a bar. I'm chilling at the bar and not really looking to see if there's any girls because on Sundays the place is kind of empty.

Anyway I look up from my phone and there's a HB7 with long blonde hair looking at me. I'm a little buzzed but I didn't drop my eye contact. I wasn't sure she was looking at me or someone behind me. She eventually waves hello. I head over and start talking to her. I don't think my game was very solid, but I asked her about staring at random guys across the bar and she said she only stares at the handsome ones. I ask her if she two steps and she says she loves to but doesn't get the chance. I give her my phone and tell her we'll go sometime.

One mistake I made was the bartender asked if we wanted another round and I said yes. She (bartender) asks if it's on my tab. I said yes. I should have done something CF or whatever, but anyway. Immediately after that HB7 offers me a shot and I accepted.

Good end to a mediocre weekend. Friday I got the number from a waitress I've been flirting with a while. She's not very hot, but I'm trying to start some plates. It was a clumsy attempt. She even asked why? Whatever.

 

[coachD]

Getting ready to try and set something up over text. I'm "assuming the sale"

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16267

Do you guys think this text will work?

Hey *********. I was nice meeting you Sunday. I'm going dancing tomorrow night. You can meet me at my house or at the bar for a beer beforehand. Whichever you prefer.

Keep in mind I've not talked or texted her since Sunday. This seems to REALLY ASSUME the sale.

 

[coachD]

"I'm broke can't this week"

What the hell does that even mean?

 

[EastvsWest]

Means NEXT and low interest. She will rob the piggy bank if she had interest. But still annoying.

Had a decent week on the social game. I have been hitting on tons of chicks, mostly bars and happy hrs. Haven't had much luck but it's been a good learning experience and really wasn't highly interested in any of them.

I really wish I could just read 1 thing in a chicks mind and this game would be so easy. Here is a short story. Met work colleagues for Happy HR on Wed, and one of the girls friends brought 3-4 other girls and a weird dude. I know most of the girls but there was a new super cute one. I chatted her up a bit but she really didn't seem to be all that social. We all went to get some dinner and I finally was able to get closer to this chick and sit next to her. She didn't say much but I chatted her up and I asked where she lived. She said blah blah street and I was like...oh you live right next to blah restaurant and that place is awesome. BOOOM her eyes just exploded and she became instantly talkative. I said I would keep it a short story, so after that we ended up hanging out for another 3-4 hours with a ton in common. She ditched most of her friends as they were going home and we went to get a drink with the weird dude. The only problem of course is this chick has a boyfriend haha. I still gamed hard and she was really receptive, but I don't mess with chicks that have boyfriends. She said she would hook me up with her colombian friend and that would be badass, but not expecting anything. It was really funny near the end of the night where she was probably a little tipsy she asked the weird dude "Are you here to keep me line? For my BF?" haha. If I was an ******* I probably could of taken her home, but I am not an ******* so I settled for the digits and said call me when your colombian friend is around or you dump your boyfriend. But damn man it's amazing how knowing something a chick loves instantly grants you HUGE points.

 

[coachD]

It's funny how a couple of failures seem to really darken my mood and take me out of my game. However, I feel like one of the things I do best is evaluate my failures.

I think part of my dry spell has come from the following:

Not making good eye contact. I've been dropping eye contact when it's made. Not good.

Not trying to compliment or start conversations with anyone.



So I'm reading the DJ Boot Camp thread and I'll try and focus on these things. I'm also reading How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Fake it till I make it.

 

[coachD]

Pook was definitely correct when he was talking about physical attraction.

I started out around 155 pounds at 6’3 height. This meant that I was very skinny. I
was also considered a nice looking guy. Women loved me being tall.
At this point, I had to deal with a lot of fat chicks hitting on me. These girls were
BIG and I wanted nothing to do with them. Ugly girls also would come to me. This
was me not doing anything. This was what my body was attracting all alone. If I
wanted to get a cuter girl, I had to work for it.
I have problems talking to women, not because I am scared or boring, but because
I sense the women think I am ‘below’ them. And the truth is that they do.
I date average women.

165
Already, things have changed. The fat/ugly women still go for me but they don’t
think I’m as easy. They want to enter oneitis with me. The ‘unworthy’ girls category
would now all be staring at me. To the beautiful women, I’m just a typical guy.
Cute girls now enjoy talking to me.
I still date average women and now some cute women

175
“You are looking very good,” my older female manager told me. The fat/ugly
women no longer hit on me (thank goodness!) and people (out of the blue) are
asking why I don’t have a girlfriend. Average girls are beginning to stare.
I date only cute women with some very attractive ones mixed in.

185
Average girls are now hitting on me. Very attractive women are checking me out.
At this stage, every woman is happy to talk to me. They all secretly wonder if I’m
gay.
I date more very attractive women but still have the cute ones.

195
OK, when you don’t have a girlfriend at this stage, the ladies will whisper, “Is he
gay?” all the time. One girl got bold about it and asked me point blankly, “Pook,
you are cute and all. So why don’t you have a girlfriend?” I was stunned by her
bluntness (rare among women).
Average women consider me out of their league. Cute ones try to become my
‘friend’.
I date only very attractive women. Beautiful women are still a bit of an anomalie.

205
When you get to this stage, something very strange happens. All the attention and
staring women gave you is gone (mostly). Ugly/Fat women will despise you as will
the average women. Most girls will be scared of you (cute girls, very attractive
girls)

Let me give you some examples. One Very Beautiful girl was in several of my
classes. I start talking to her and she has plenty of time to leave. But she doesn’t…
she stays to keep talking to me. The girls now notice me, but are a bit scared to
talk and act around me.

One cute girl is like a leech to me in one of my classes. She must sit right next to
me, must ‘borrow my notes’, must talk to me 20 minutes after class everyday…

One Very Beautiful woman was a fitness instructor at my gym (think ‘well muscled’
with nice strong legs (those strong thighs come in handy with her dealings with the
Pook-man!)). Every time I saw this girl, she always had a ‘satellite’ boy around her.
Who does she end up with? Me.

Or the ultimate example: there was a girl I was in oneitis that drove me to this
webpage. As I got bigger, her reactions to me changed as well. At 155, I was
‘average’. At 175, she knew something was up. I got her at 195.
Now I date some Very Attractive women but most are Very Beautiful Women.

The main difference is that I'm tall and on the heavy side and he started skinny. Right now I could get several 6s. I was at a club with friends from dance class last night and all the girls in our group were 6s at best. One was doable but the others were portly. I honestly believe that any those chicks would have gone home with me. Last week a 6 texted me and wanted to meet at a club.

The inner game, that's legit. I have two areas of inner that are lacking. I'm losing weight (1-not there yet), but I still have a beer belly (2-beer has been my girlfriend for several years [blue pill]).

If I can continue to evolve then all the other stuff takes care of itself. I honestly believe that the girls will come to me.

Continue to lift and jog, continue to eat relatively well and cut the beer to a minimum. These things are the final ingredients for this stage of my evolution.

 

[BMX]

Yep CoachD, absolutely. It's funny you posted that because I read it recently too. I'm 5'11" and bigger myself. Have been this way since about 10th grade. As of the past year I've had nothing but really short, tiny women coming on to me? The Marine I banged is short and tiny but she's acting all stupid. Doesn't wanna bang or hangout anymore and blew me off a few times. She tries to act like she's my friend but I don't care, she leaves in 2 weeks.

I have a short, tiny blonde from my own branch of service that wants to spend a few days of the 4th of July holiday at my family's house with me. Awesome. Funny that she's from the same part of Jersey as the Marine hahaha. At least this one isn't an alcoholic, liar. Has a better personality, sense of humor and potential.

 

[evan12]

The inner game, that's legit. I have two areas of inner that are lacking. I'm losing weight (1-not there yet), but I still have a beer belly (2-beer has been my girlfriend for several years [blue pill]).

Belly is bery bad if you want women to find you attractive , I am now losing it and the results getting better quickly

 

[evan12]

Pook was definitely correct when he was talking about physical attraction.

I started out around 155 pounds at 6’3 height. This meant that I was very skinny. I
was also considered a nice looking guy. Women loved me being tall.
At this point, I had to deal with a lot of fat chicks hitting on me. These girls were
BIG and I wanted nothing to do with them. Ugly girls also would come to me. This
was me not doing anything. This was what my body was attracting all alone. If I
wanted to get a cuter girl, I had to work for it.
I have problems talking to women, not because I am scared or boring, but because
I sense the women think I am ‘below’ them. And the truth is that they do.
I date average women.

165
Already, things have changed. The fat/ugly women still go for me but they don’t
think I’m as easy. They want to enter oneitis with me. The ‘unworthy’ girls category
would now all be staring at me. To the beautiful women, I’m just a typical guy.
Cute girls now enjoy talking to me.
I still date average women and now some cute women

175
“You are looking very good,” my older female manager told me. The fat/ugly
women no longer hit on me (thank goodness!) and people (out of the blue) are
asking why I don’t have a girlfriend. Average girls are beginning to stare.
I date only cute women with some very attractive ones mixed in.

185
Average girls are now hitting on me. Very attractive women are checking me out.
At this stage, every woman is happy to talk to me. They all secretly wonder if I’m
gay.
I date more very attractive women but still have the cute ones.

195
OK, when you don’t have a girlfriend at this stage, the ladies will whisper, “Is he
gay?” all the time. One girl got bold about it and asked me point blankly, “Pook,
you are cute and all. So why don’t you have a girlfriend?” I was stunned by her
bluntness (rare among women).
Average women consider me out of their league. Cute ones try to become my
‘friend’.
I date only very attractive women. Beautiful women are still a bit of an anomalie.

205
When you get to this stage, something very strange happens. All the attention and
staring women gave you is gone (mostly). Ugly/Fat women will despise you as will
the average women. Most girls will be scared of you (cute girls, very attractive
girls)

Let me give you some examples. One Very Beautiful girl was in several of my
classes. I start talking to her and she has plenty of time to leave. But she doesn’t…
she stays to keep talking to me. The girls now notice me, but are a bit scared to
talk and act around me.

One cute girl is like a leech to me in one of my classes. She must sit right next to
me, must ‘borrow my notes’, must talk to me 20 minutes after class everyday…

One Very Beautiful woman was a fitness instructor at my gym (think ‘well muscled’
with nice strong legs (those strong thighs come in handy with her dealings with the
Pook-man!)). Every time I saw this girl, she always had a ‘satellite’ boy around her.
Who does she end up with? Me.

Or the ultimate example: there was a girl I was in oneitis that drove me to this
webpage. As I got bigger, her reactions to me changed as well. At 155, I was
‘average’. At 175, she knew something was up. I got her at 195.
Now I date some Very Attractive women but most are Very Beautiful Women.

does any body have the link to the original thread by Pook ?

 

[coachD]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=60002

 

[evan12]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=60002

thanks
I lost 8 KG in these 3 months and planning to loose another 8 to be fit .
lets watch the results !

 

[coachD]

I'm still on the weight lifting and running. I think it's really paying off. The girls at dance class are reacting much better lately. Maybe a combo of my new 10 day beard and the weight training.

One question for any other weight lifters. I struggle with squats. I'm doing them consistently and constantly pushing myself to make sure I'm doing an actual squat and not just a half squat. However, as the weights been increasing I'm slowing down during the set. Do you think there's any problem with that? If I take 20 or so seconds between reps (not sets - I generally rest 3 minutes between sets of my working weight) towards the end the final sets of squats?

In other words, if I can do my first set of squats (at my working weight) at a normal pace, is it a problem for me to take twice as long on my 2nd and 3rd set?

I know I'm opening a can of worms.

 

[coachD]

So it's been a while but things are good.

I spent most of the summer concentrating on lifting and building some muscle. It's paid off. I still have a long way to go, but I can see the difference in the way women respond.

Went to a party and hooked up last week. Kind of out of the blue but it felt natural.

Last night one of my coworkers texted me to come meet her and some of the other coaches at a bar. It was like 8:30 and I wondered if it would look bad that I wasn't already doing something on a Saturday night. Whatever, I went and had a blast. Three of these coaches are pretty hot, one is married but I think she digs me.

I really want to escalate with the one who texted me but I'm not sure how. They all wanted to two step with me every time a country song came on which was nice.

Thank you sosuave. It's a process, but I feel better each day.

 

[evan12]

Good progress man ,
I was already thinking that day what was your latest news