co worker

[mgh143]

recently, i have had attraction to a coworker and want to find out if she is definitely in same place as me. she is exhibiting overly friendly behavior but likes to screw with my head alot acting at times like she is upset with me?

How can it tell if she sees me as I see her or if she is just becoming better friends with me?

 

[AmIAFC]

You'll get a lot of "don't dip your pen in the company ink" replies, but I'm going to explain to you, from first-hand experience, why it's best not to mess with her:

1.) You see her every work day. If something goes wrong (e.g., you develop one-it-is; she turns out to be a psycho; she’s a gossip wh0re and discovers you have a small pecker, etc.) are you prepared to expose yourself to her and her drama on a regular basis?

2.) If you’re the type to get jealous easily or clingy, quit while you’re ahead. One day, you might think she’s into you; the next day, she’ll be going to lunch with another co-worker…possibly screwing him, too. Are you prepared to deal with that? Every hour you’re at work, you’ll be burdened with crazy thoughts like, “Why did she and the new guy leave at the same time? Are they going out and trying to be sneaky about it?”

3.) You won’t be able to focus on work, but she will. Care to know why? Because she knows she has you and probably every other guy at work wrapped around her little finger. Her mind won’t be in turmoil.


I've been there before, and right now, I'm going through some crazy stuff with this one psycho co-worker. I'm in the process of switching jobs.

 

[adamjones]

Dont get involved with a fellow worker

She sounds like she's giving the old push - pull treatment...
Acts like she wants you one minute and the does the exact oppsite the next..

I think thats why you have developed an attraction for her...

Have some fun and try an experiment...
Do the same thing to her and see what happens...(you'll be suprised) Be nice day minute and cold the next mix it up mess with her...

 

[DJHoolahoop]

What the guy before me said has a good point about doing the same thing to her. Here's another thing that you have to master. Persuing (and I only mean setting up dates) her like you want to find out if she's gf material and also not giving off any vibes like you are persuing her. Being mysterious and what not.

Also, the other thing that you got to look at is that girls are fun to have around, but they can also make things extremely stressful and difficult, so its vital that you put yourself as number 1 and girls further down. NEVER compromise yourself for the sake of a girl. Beat her to the punch and do all the things that she'd probably do. That DOES mean talking to other girls at your work if there are some. Make her think like she gets special treatment one second and then be aloof with her so she wonders about you.

This is what I'm doing so far, it may be working and it may not be. Either way I'm only going for the girl that gets the opportunity first, whether it be co-worker a, co-worker b or girl 3... That way it's easy to be the chooser and are less likely to develop one-itis.