"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was talking with one of my co workers last night for almost my entire break. Well she did most of the talking. She talked about a lot.
She ranged from Doom to AvP to being kicked out by her parents.
I wanted to ask her for her number if she wanted to hang out or do something. I have gotten along with this girl so I thought it was safe to ask for her #, but what are the guidelines if you are chilling with a female co worker?

From what I have heard it is okay to be friends, but dating and sex are to be discouraged.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree with LJC and add that you should try and test for her drama levels. The getting kicked out by her parents rings a few warning bells. Also, it is better if you aren't working in the same team as her. The less direct interaction you have with her in the work place the better.
 
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We work in separate departments.
THe getting kicked out thing was because she did not want to goto the store and get soemthing for her parents.

How do you test for drama levels?
 
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The warning bells are still ringing. I know that relations with parents are different but moving out over a shopping excursion seems extreme.

Here are few tests I can think of:

First of all, listen to her stories with a critical mind. Remember, you are deciding if she is good enough for YOU.

Ask her opinion on a woman scorned story e.g. friend who broke up, girl slashed his tires... Use a real story, you will need facts as she may (probably) want to know to judge how justified the act is and don't invent, if you don't know, say so and play with what ifs. You probably know someone who this happened to, if not, you could probably find a detailed story in the forums.

Get her to talk about her co-workers. What are her reactions to being slighted - Is she talking revenge or turning the other cheek? Is she professional with the people she can't stand.

BTW: These apply to any woman you are thinking of having an LTR with.
 
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