Saw this earlier didn't see a thread so I thought I might as well post it.
http://www.cnbc.com/id/28691870
http://www.cnbc.com/id/28691870
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
These are the same idiots that said everything would be fine.f283000 said:we are headed for times worse than the soup lines of the great depression (and thats not just me talking its top economists)
I've never shopped really shopped at Cicruit City. They went out of business here last year.Levex said:When they do start, i'll be the first one in the door.
This sucks though, cause now best buy will have a monopoly and their prices are pretty damn high compared to other electronics retailers.
Will be shopping at wally world and online for my electronics from now on![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
f283000 said:PREPARE FOR A DEPRESSION!
If you have any sort of intelligence you will go to costco or any other foodmarket and get yourself some bags of rice and other foods to store them, stock up on water,get your money out of savings accounts. We are headed for times worse than the soup lines of the great depression (and thats not just me talking its top economists)
That's like saying Wal-Mart would have a monopoly if K-Mart went under. Nothing is going to change with Best Buy.Levex said:This sucks though, cause now best buy will have a monopoly and their prices are pretty damn high compared to other electronics retailers.
STR8UP said:That said, I am somewhat "competition" to both of them. There is a Circuit closing one block away. More market share for me!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Negative cycle fueled by mass hysteria.Upside said:Okay, show me the facts.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.