Read this forum over the last year as my therapy in getting over my cluster B' experience. 8 years of hell ( only myself to blame) thanks to Jophill (rip) KontrollerX, scars ec... for all the advice.
opened my eyes.
Anyway, here's a template for all those thinking of getting back into the dating scene after dealing with a cluster B' ( made me laugh anyway)....
I am a well-adjusted, professional male. I am honest, stable, loving, generous and kind. Own business, own house.
I am physically fit and considered attractive. I enjoy travel, walks,bike riding and outdoor activities. And, alas, I am newly single.
Usually at this juncture I would hit the singles bars and night clubs, spending a small fortune on travel, drinks and dinners looking for the next Ms. Right, just to end up with another disordered (yet attractive) woman who would eventually turn into a psycho and make my life a living hell.
So this time I thought I would narrow the search and try here. Why waste time. I am looking for that “special” Lady to turn my world upside down.
Although I have found that women with Cluster C personality traits (anxious, fearful and dependent) can cause a lot of damage, they are not near as much fun to be with, or cause as much pain and anguish, as those who suffer from the dramatic, erratic disorders.
Lets face it! Emotional dysregulation without impulsive, deceitful, confusing and hurtful behavior is boring.
I seem to be attracted to the Cluster B personality disordered (Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic, Antisocial). Those very attractive, manipulative and seductive women, who can seem so normal (at first) on the surface, great sex and mirroring ( you will seem like my soulmate) with fake, shallow, personalities to match.
You can get extra points if your level of self centered narcissism puts you in the category of the Antisocial (Sociopath / Psychopath). If you can lie, cheat, manipulate, and exploit others within a relationship with impunity to get what ever it is you want, lack empathy and a mature conscience, and feel no guilt or remorse for all of the pain and suffering you cause; You may be the one for me.
You must also be able to rage like nothing else and call me all the names under the sun as well as destroy property without a second thought.
My perfect “soul mate” will be older, between the ages of 30 and 40 because self centered, impulsive and inconsistent behavior in teens and very young adults can be normal. (You may actually grow up, and then where would we be?)
You should have a history of many, many short-term marriages, affairs and relationships that ended horribly and involved infidelity, exploitation and deceit (on your part). If your ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends and others wont speak to you, yet you always seem to have a few other ex's hanging around just in case, that would be a plus.
You should already have a nice set of fake boobs. If you are not attractive enough or devious enough to have gotten some other sap to buy them for you by now, nor narcissistic enough to have bought them your self by now, you probably are not disordered enough for me.
I have already bought all the boobs I am going to buy. However; cars, trips, houses and jewelry are still on the table.
You should have mind boggling mood swings, narcissistic rages, and be prone to having impulsive sexual affairs with strangers, the handyman, coworkers etc: because it makes you “feel good” or better yet, to get something you “need”.
Other traits that will endear me to you include, but are not limited to:
)You actually have a diagnosis of a Cluster B personality disorder (This is rare. Not the disorder, just the diagnosis is rare).
)You have been told you suffer from: Bi-Polar Disorder or Depression (You may, but those are the least of your problems). )
)You have attempted, or threatened suicide at some point.
)You walked out of therapy in anger. )You have never been to therapy, but former partners often seek therapy to deal with the emotional damage you do to them.
)You will not take any meds prescribed by your psychiatrist.
)You view sex as a weapon to be used for reward and/or punishment.
)You think everyone else is just like you, but better at hiding it.
)You must think everything is everyones fault never your own mistake
)You must have had at least 10 - 15 jobs over the last 10 years (all lost due to someone at work who hates you)
)You must be able to spend every penny you have and don't have because )you can always come to me for a loan ( not that you will ever pay it back but we will call it a loan anyway)
)You must be sufficiently dyssregulated to be able to not function in a social environment and alienate all my friends and family
Ladies, if you think you have what it takes, please respond. After all, it’s all about you anyway!
it won’t last long; We may as well have some fun!
Your Pic gets mine.
opened my eyes.
Anyway, here's a template for all those thinking of getting back into the dating scene after dealing with a cluster B' ( made me laugh anyway)....
I am a well-adjusted, professional male. I am honest, stable, loving, generous and kind. Own business, own house.
I am physically fit and considered attractive. I enjoy travel, walks,bike riding and outdoor activities. And, alas, I am newly single.
Usually at this juncture I would hit the singles bars and night clubs, spending a small fortune on travel, drinks and dinners looking for the next Ms. Right, just to end up with another disordered (yet attractive) woman who would eventually turn into a psycho and make my life a living hell.
So this time I thought I would narrow the search and try here. Why waste time. I am looking for that “special” Lady to turn my world upside down.
Although I have found that women with Cluster C personality traits (anxious, fearful and dependent) can cause a lot of damage, they are not near as much fun to be with, or cause as much pain and anguish, as those who suffer from the dramatic, erratic disorders.
Lets face it! Emotional dysregulation without impulsive, deceitful, confusing and hurtful behavior is boring.
I seem to be attracted to the Cluster B personality disordered (Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic, Antisocial). Those very attractive, manipulative and seductive women, who can seem so normal (at first) on the surface, great sex and mirroring ( you will seem like my soulmate) with fake, shallow, personalities to match.
You can get extra points if your level of self centered narcissism puts you in the category of the Antisocial (Sociopath / Psychopath). If you can lie, cheat, manipulate, and exploit others within a relationship with impunity to get what ever it is you want, lack empathy and a mature conscience, and feel no guilt or remorse for all of the pain and suffering you cause; You may be the one for me.
You must also be able to rage like nothing else and call me all the names under the sun as well as destroy property without a second thought.
My perfect “soul mate” will be older, between the ages of 30 and 40 because self centered, impulsive and inconsistent behavior in teens and very young adults can be normal. (You may actually grow up, and then where would we be?)
You should have a history of many, many short-term marriages, affairs and relationships that ended horribly and involved infidelity, exploitation and deceit (on your part). If your ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends and others wont speak to you, yet you always seem to have a few other ex's hanging around just in case, that would be a plus.
You should already have a nice set of fake boobs. If you are not attractive enough or devious enough to have gotten some other sap to buy them for you by now, nor narcissistic enough to have bought them your self by now, you probably are not disordered enough for me.
I have already bought all the boobs I am going to buy. However; cars, trips, houses and jewelry are still on the table.
You should have mind boggling mood swings, narcissistic rages, and be prone to having impulsive sexual affairs with strangers, the handyman, coworkers etc: because it makes you “feel good” or better yet, to get something you “need”.
Other traits that will endear me to you include, but are not limited to:
)You actually have a diagnosis of a Cluster B personality disorder (This is rare. Not the disorder, just the diagnosis is rare).
)You have been told you suffer from: Bi-Polar Disorder or Depression (You may, but those are the least of your problems). )
)You have attempted, or threatened suicide at some point.
)You walked out of therapy in anger. )You have never been to therapy, but former partners often seek therapy to deal with the emotional damage you do to them.
)You will not take any meds prescribed by your psychiatrist.
)You view sex as a weapon to be used for reward and/or punishment.
)You think everyone else is just like you, but better at hiding it.
)You must think everything is everyones fault never your own mistake
)You must have had at least 10 - 15 jobs over the last 10 years (all lost due to someone at work who hates you)
)You must be able to spend every penny you have and don't have because )you can always come to me for a loan ( not that you will ever pay it back but we will call it a loan anyway)
)You must be sufficiently dyssregulated to be able to not function in a social environment and alienate all my friends and family
Ladies, if you think you have what it takes, please respond. After all, it’s all about you anyway!
it won’t last long; We may as well have some fun!
Your Pic gets mine.
