Clubs - some nights so good, some so bad

[Miles28]

I've been to the same club near where I live many times. I have had some great nights there where things just clicked and I'd find myself hooking up with one or more of the many hot girls out to party that night with others wanting to get in on the action, but more than that the whole vibe would just seem friendly and open and I'd have a really good time.

Then I'd have nights like last night where almost every woman I talked to (even those who were mediocre at best) would just do that whole rude turn away and put their hand up to 'block' you like you're some paparazzi getting in some big shot celebrity's face, the guys seemed to outnumber girls by 3 to 1 and the ugly girls outnumbered the hot girls by 5 to 1.

After nights like last night my gut feeling is that I don't ever want to go clubbing again because the experience was so bad but then I do keep going back in search for those great nights where everything just works. Admittedly I probably have more bad nights that great ones.

Do other people find this with going out to clubs, that nights out will just vary wildly and sometimes they'll feel like a king and other times a leper?

M

 

[War Against Betaism]

Definitely, can't expect to have a great night at the club every single time, unless you're a celebrity. I remember I went to a club one night and had like 5 good dances the whole night, and then the very next night I wanted to build on this momentum, I was 2/20. Made me hate clubbing.

 

[Funlol]

LOL.. the same thing happens to me. I go to clubs once a week

3 weeks ago I was ON... got the hottest girl in the club grinding on my d*ck on the dance floor and had some other girls coming up to me all night. Tried to get her to come home with me but she was with her friends. I f*cked her the next night.

2 weeks ago I went to a club... must have been rejected by about 20 girls. At one point I just stopped trying and was having fun with the rejections... Trying to get rejected.. Going up to girls and just saying the most AFC things I could think of. That night was a confidence killer for sure, but I eventually picked myself up.

Last week was probably my best night in a while. Got 4 hb's numbers and took one of them home.

So.. my advice is to just keep going. Some nights are ladies' nights... some nights you just pick the wrong ones to approach by accident.. some nights the clubs are filled with dykes. Just be persistent. The more you do something, the better you get at it.

To be honest, I'm thinking that night 2 weeks ago really helped me out. Got me completely immune to club rejection. When I finally went back last week, nothing could break me. I was just having a good time the whole night. Keep it up dude

 

[Miles28]

Thanks, glad it's not just me!

I guess you can't always control whether it's going to be a good night or not. I do want to be able to control the feeling of disgust when I walk out of a club after a terrible night, it's bright light outside, I'm kind of drunk, kind of sick, have smoked dozens of cigarettes and have effectively written off the next day to a hangover and all for nothing.

 

[Miles28]

Funlol,

Good reply, thanks! I know I'll keep going like some Pavlov conditioned lab rat who gets the treat 2 out of 10 times and electric shocks the other 8 times, lol (ok I exaggerate it's not quite that bad).

After one of the bad experiences I'll always tell myself that I'm not going again and that instead I'll do something more productive on Saturday night, get up early the next day, go jogging, etc. Yet every week by the time Saturday rolls around I've recovered enough to want to hit the club again.

Like you said it's largely the particular crowd that is there that night that makes all the difference. Last night was the worst crowd of all, i.e mediocre to ugly attention *****s with terrible attitudes. I have no problem whatsoever with a girl rejecting me but, unless you've approached them in a totally obnoxious manner, I don't see why they can't just be civil about it!

M

 

[Ease]

So true. Its hit and miss.

Especially the clubs i frequent, loud busy and dark. Good for dancefloor game, but not possible to talk or use your looks.

I always go in large groups of friends. Most fun when you have people to kick with. Its not reliable enough to go just to pull girls.