"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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clubs? just had first time.

sageproduct

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last night i went to a club in my area called zero gravity for the first time ever. it was BIG risk for me socially, because it is often a punchline at my school because it is supposedly a place where tools and skanks go. i am extremely bored with my friends group right now and was exceptionally horny, so i went out on a limb and took a risk by driving there alone.

when i got there, i was kind of paranoid of being spotted there by anyone who knew me, as it would ruin my reputation. but no one i knew was there. got in, went on the dance floor immediately. at first, i was trying that general club advice of just trying to dance and look like you have fun, and dance close to a girl you want to dance with.

this did NOT work. a few times i tried to inch closer to groups of girls, with bad results each time. maybe it was because this is an underage club (like 16-21 or somethin) or maybe it was because it wasn't that crowded. idk.

then i started watching these 2 guys who danced with a different girl every time i saw them. i noticed that they just snuck up behind a girl, put their hands around their waist, and started grinding. and it worked.

i was trying to work eye contact before that, but it wasn't working. also, smiling seemed to give a creepy vibe at a dance club (the music was waaaay to loud for any talking, even at the tables). so i tried "sneaking up". i'd say in the whole night, i did this to about 15 girls and 5 danced with me. i noticed some would freak out when any guy did this to them and complain to their friends. a couple did this to me, but i later noticed them dancing with other guys.

to be honest, first girl i danced with was a true fatty lol. i was just glad to start grinding with SOMEONE. then in the next 3 hours i walked around, watched some guys who were good, and tried to grind with other girls. only about 2 that i danced with id say were attractive.

more details that i coul put up later.

SUMMARY: i went to an underage dance club for the first time. anyone go to clubs?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RollinDo

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No...underage clubs seem gay why club and not be drugged out? lol half joking. But good job on grinding with a few chicks the only advice I could think of would be to be more confident and make sure you look fly oh ya and being a good dancer helps (dancing not grinding but not like tha tango and all that I mean like 'urban' dancing)
 

sageproduct

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haha ya, i was trying to just enjoy myself dancing out there and didn't get any girls' attention or eye contact so i went to cold approaching from behind and placing my hands on their waists.
 
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