Clubs: How to get dances in a club

[Tookie]

I'm just curious how do you get dances in your city or state. Where I'm from you see a girl dancing in the club you just go up behind her and grab her is it like that where you are from or different.

 

[PRMoon]

That's standard for clubs almost everywhere. If you're a good dancer or are pretty hot, most girls will want to dance with you thus eliminating the need to ask at all.

 

[ready123]

but if you're not and you go grind her from behind, a lot of times the girl'll get creeped out and run away. it's wierd because getting freaked from behind is something girls complain about a lot. but when you're "on" and having a good time, it can work

personally, I'd say if you suck at dancing, talk to her first. grab her hand, "we're gonna dance, ok?" lead her. or ask her without coming across like a wierdo

 

[penkitten]

"hi, my name is (tookie), i just turned 21 and this is the first time i have ever been here, what do you usually do here? dance? wanna dance with me?"

i have never seen a guy turned down with that line.
and sometimes the chick will even buy you a beer.

she is thinking you are going to remember it forever!
(your first club, the first dance with a pretty woman (her) and she bought you a beer...)

 

[ChrizZ]

The dance floor is a trap. It's all about social proof on there. The more girls you are already dancing with the easier it is to open sets on the dancefloor. If you just start grinding from behind you have 0 value to her. It's all about looks then. Sometimes it works, but most of the time it doesnt.

 

[rjones]

I usually just go up behind them and start grinding. I don't really like asking them. Sometimes I might say "lets dance" but thats about it.

 

[DJVladdy]

Around here you dont ask... Its awkward AS HELL to ask uhh so u wanna dance, blinking like an idiot. LOL. Then she looked at me as if I had 3 heads or something. Much better formula is get in the mood/flow -> make eye contact -> touch her on the hand/shoulder first -> she will assume her position if she's diggin u as well. In that order.

Dont just get behind her and grind her ass, like your a puppy trying to hump something. it looks pathetic.

Exception: you CAN just start grinding a random chick... if you REALLY are in the mood (frame, zone, w/e word you like). Reason is - you will have such great energy and pheromones flowing from you that many girls won't resist. You'll automatically do everything right. CANNOT be faked though