"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Clubbing is terrible

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Ok I went out tonight clubbing and tried to pick up. I approached asked for a dance, got blown off, not success at all for the night. I'm never going clubbing again. I also think it's because i'm oriental, western societies are not oriental friendly

I'm a ****ing AFC
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude I agree with you,these days women of all races only prefer black or latinomen.Its like they don't like us whiteguys or oriental because we are educated,so they want the "ghetto" stupid guys.Well there are still whitewomen who still want educated whiteguys and oriental like me and you.
 

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My friend is asian- I am white...we go to the clubs to have fun once in a while. He has a g/f but talks to other people and enjoys himself as well. He isn't the best looking guy but his girl isn't dumb and not too hard on the eyes. At least you can admit you have some work to do and it is easy to get discouraged. First step always is admitting you have a problem- the difference between you and the rest of the chumps is that when you fall you have to get back up again. Do not allow yourself to get caught in self-limiting beliefs imposed by society! Yeah, what you say might potentially have some merit (as all generalizations do) but does that mean to just give up? I hope not!

So what, you tried to dance with some girls and they didn't want to dance- that's okay. How about you practice your moves on the dance floor and have fun? Girls pick up on this, you know. I see chumps out on the dance floor with their arms crossed and mean muggin' like girls should actually give a sh!t about them but don't understand they are giving off the wrong signals. I think the most important thing is to pick up on things you like about a girl and use them as openers. It could be anything.

example:

you: "hey there, those are cute earrings. where do you like to shop?"
her: "oh I got them at blah blah store, they have all sorts of cool stuff"
you: "neat." then follow up with "what's your name", "where you from" or any other questions that may interest you about a girl.

try to come up with a question on whatever keywords you can pick up on. If you can make a funny/****y/witty comment here and there, go for it. Light humor will make both of you more comfortable talking and you can wrap it up any time if you aren't eliciting much of a response by being polite- end it with something like "well, it's been nice talking to you, enjoy your evening" or whatever suits your character. If you do this you will become a natural DJ...it all comes down to enjoying your life and taking a little risk to initiate some conversation here and there. If she likes you or is even worth your time she will keep the conversation going rather easily and do most of the work for you- this is because she wants your attention! I guess you will learn to differentiate from girls that just use you for attention and those who are geniunely interested. I have girls that throw themselves at me and whisper dirty things in my ear but it's because they're drunk and want attention, lol.

Most importantly you must realize this is done to satisfy your need for something new. You do not want to continue your life being spineless and enjoy taking risks just to see what the outcome will be. If you do not take risks you are not living life. Why do people ride motorcycles knowing how dangerous they are? Simple- it makes them feel ALIVE. Engrain this into your being and know you aren't here for very long- why spend your youth being a wuss and your golden years regretting what could've been?

Honestly, people only care about themselves. You should only care about really close friends and family...who cares what some random chick thinks. Not all attractions are created equal anyway. Only spend time on girls that show healthy amount of interest by smiling a lot and talking to you...don't waste time on the others. Well, that's my 2 cents, anyway.
 

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dude I agree with you,these days women of all races only prefer black or latinomen.Its like they don't like us whiteguys or oriental because we are educated,so they want the "ghetto" stupid guys.Well there are still whitewomen who still want educated whiteguys and oriental like me and you.

Dreamx!!! SHUT UP MATE!! omg what r u writing!!! do u even know???? U r a looser that cant get of the computer, seriously u keep writing about u rpoblems and u still give advise?? White guys cant get women??? U friking moron or its just me?? i get rejected always, i never give up. ALL people get rejected, blacks, mexicans, whites, indians, muslims. The first time i asked a girl out i was rejected. I was 11 years old then, and i though why i got rejected?? is it me? is it her? And then after i asked a girl again i didnt get rejected.. And knoo i knew it was her not me.. Hot girls always get approached and they cant just date us all!!
 

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dreamx said:
dude I agree with you,these days women of all races only prefer black or latinomen.Its like they don't like us whiteguys or oriental because we are educated,so they want the "ghetto" stupid guys.Well there are still whitewomen who still want educated whiteguys and oriental like me and you.
Please continue with your condescending comments to make yourself look more like a fool. Its funny that you have the audacity which you have, yet you make retarded, inane utterances like this. Hmmm...maybe if you weren't a "little" racist and ignorant you would understand why girls dont like you. Funny how you equate 'ghetto' to black people. Im black and by no means am i ghetto or stupid...hopefully you, being the 'intelligent' white person you are understood what I, the stupid, uneducated, ghetto black person said...toodles.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dreamx said:
dude I agree with you,these days women of all races only prefer black or latinomen.Its like they don't like us whiteguys or oriental because we are educated,so they want the "ghetto" stupid guys.Well there are still whitewomen who still want educated whiteguys and oriental like me and you.
I can see you don't get girls because of what you just posted. lol

Why would you even think that and why do blacks and latinos have to be stupid? I know for sure I'm not stupid. But anyway everybody gets rejected doesn't matter about race, I'm not going to lie to you but lately I've been able to open all the girls besides some of the older ones. (No i didn't close all of them) It all comes down to your game. You really needed to go out there and start approaching cause it seems like you haven't learned anything.
 

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Guys I'm not racist,sorry if I ment to offend anyone on these forum.I didn't even know there was black people or latino people,on these forum I thought it was an all white forum,because well us whiteguys need the help and couple orientals as well.The post I made I didnot ment to be racist,maybe its the miniortys at my school,who act like that even though my school is 99% white.
 

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dreamx said:
dude I agree with you,these days women of all races only prefer black or latinomen.Its like they don't like us whiteguys or oriental because we are educated,so they want the "ghetto" stupid guys.Well there are still whitewomen who still want educated whiteguys and oriental like me and you.
get ur gun, ernie! i heard theres a negro in town and our sheets are fresh back from the cleaners! now lest go kill some uneducated negros for jesus!

god what a fool i dont even wanna help you
 
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