XxprodigyxX
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im taking this girl out who likes to go dancing. Do you think its a good idea to take her clubbing for a date?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
clubbing for a date
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
LittleBigOne
Don Juan
I don't think so. If you are serious you should do something active, somewhere where are no people who can interrupt your date (like friends from her or drunk lads who wants to fight etc.). Maybe its fun to visit a fair or a themeparc with her... And do no Dinners! And let her buy you a drink!
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LittleBigOne
No excuse for my English
LittleBigOne
Sure. Take her to a salsa club. The atmosphere in those places is much less intimidating. You'll be her dancing partner with plenty of physical contact involved.
+ in a bar/club there will be alcohol which does wonders.
+ in a bar/club there will be alcohol which does wonders.
MightyMate
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Id never take girl for a date to club.
Uro.Essence
Don Juan
Like Fash said If she said she liked dancing take her to a salsa club or even one of those walk-in salsa lesson shops, it will create a bond with you two and she will see you are interested in her interests and you were listening.
As for the club idea I say take her to a salsa lesson place and if afterwards she says lets go to a club then go for it but don't just take her there, because the atmosphere isn't right for 2nd date status.
If you do want to show her you like to party and dance maybe one time just randomly call her up say you and some friends are at club whatever and ask her to come out with her friends. That way she doesnt see it as a date so there is no atmosphere to be ruined and when she comes she will automatically come to you and start dancing also working as somewhat of a pivot next time you go to the club without her. All the girls will have seen how excited that girl was to dance with you and they will think you have something every other guy doesnt and also flock to you for the night.
Uro.
As for the club idea I say take her to a salsa lesson place and if afterwards she says lets go to a club then go for it but don't just take her there, because the atmosphere isn't right for 2nd date status.
If you do want to show her you like to party and dance maybe one time just randomly call her up say you and some friends are at club whatever and ask her to come out with her friends. That way she doesnt see it as a date so there is no atmosphere to be ruined and when she comes she will automatically come to you and start dancing also working as somewhat of a pivot next time you go to the club without her. All the girls will have seen how excited that girl was to dance with you and they will think you have something every other guy doesnt and also flock to you for the night.
Uro.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.