Clubbing alone?

[yul]

Hey guys,

recently broke up after some 7 years and most of my friends are in LTR.

I like to go out by myself but it's a bit awkward.

There are a few great bars I like to hang around in where the music isn't too loud and I like to sit at the bar. I really don't enjoy discos and such.

1-
There will usually be women trying to sit besides me but I can't help but feeling stupid for being there by myself. It's "feels" very unhealthy to me and wonder if I should be wasting my time there. I know I can speak with these women at times but can't help to think THEY think I am nuts for being there alone...

2- I hate staring at the barman/maid. I usually try to engange in a convo with who ever is sitting besides me and attract some more people but they are still strangers. I find some places where the bar is circular helps a bit because you can watch other people too. Any other cues please? Talking to the barmaid feel so hypocritical but it may be a solution.

3- Having past a few beers will turn me into a unconfident nice guy. Like I feel guilty for having had drinks (alone!) and feel sorry about myself. Anyone else have these symptoms?I tried switchign to pepsi so I can keep my guard up ;-) but I still like to drink too.


Anyways, I am not certain if I should be wasting my time in these places because I am able to engage with women at other places but I really like there sassy looks when they go out. (Just for show?)

If you think there is a section or posts in this forum that could help, let me know because I havent been able to find it. (The bible?)

Thanks!

 

[Luke Skywalker]

You can use the woman around you as PAWNS to gradually work youself to hit on the HB targets as you gain social proof. Your problem is you dont have a PIVOT, so you have to improvise and use your PAWNS.

If you dont know what i'm talking about, then read the DJ bible, there is a site that has all these abbreviations that are linked to it and will go into further detail.

 

[yul]

Thanks for yur help. I really need to get going with the bible.

Although, you did not mention if this activity is worth pursuing or is better left for people looking for fun rather than a meeting place.

Thanks

 

[tom121]

if you see a woman sitting all alone and just drinking, make your move!

i have went to bar alone sometimes, i'd meet women easier that way without having friends giving me pressure